*Edited as re-read Op and got answer*
Porn is not your problem. Him being in the habit of interacting with live cam whores and cheating sites and sexting IS a problem though and I think the two of you would do well to book some counseling sessions with a professional psycho-sexual therapist. You MAY be hyper sexual and he's DEFINATELY gotten himself into a habit that should cause you a problem even if you were getting laid two times a day, every day.
Wanting or not wanting sex isn't about how attractive you are either. If you have a "mental illness" perhaps the stress of dealing with that has become just too much and it's affecting his own mental state which of course, would wreck havoc with his libido.
Love isn't enough of a reason to stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling. However, you should make sure that you're not considering how many times a week he wants sex as a guage of how attractive you are. I see some negative self image problems in you that may be adding to your marital problem and your own self worth.
Yours and your husbands issues go well beyond "my husband prefers porn over sex" That's just the one issue that screws with your ability to feel good about yourself it would seem.
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BTW: What happened to this resolve of yours as stated in your other thread(s)?
My plan is to accept that he probably has gotten bored of me but the fact that he is still with me has got to mean something. So I will just have to learn to live with it.
Have you actually ever just talked to your own therapist about any of this?
Last edited by Wakeup; 21-03-15 at 06:01 AM.
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