Hi all,
I'm married for 3 years with a 6 mths old son. Recently I found out accidentally from checking his whatsapp for a phone number that my husband has been in touch with his first ex from 16 years ago. Their chat/ talk seems innocent enough but I'm just wondering why is he hiding it from me? And from their conversations that I read, she does ask about his family( me n our son) but he often just mention our baby not me. He avoids her questions about me and changes topic. Am I being over sensitive or is it a guy thing that they don't talk abot their wife?
When she pop back in town for a visit, she and a few of their old friends came over to visit our baby, that was the first time I met her. She seemed nice n friendly。I honestly didn't feel threaten by her til I saw his txts regarding that visit. She said they were coming by soon. He replied "baby's sleeping. Let's go elsewhere to catch up. By the beach perhaps." After seeing his reply I felt he did not want me n her to meet.. Does he have some other agenda in mind?
He would tell her how stress he is with work n just talk about rubbish, share links and news. He asked her about her recent divorce, he seemed very concerned from the questions he asked.He even asked how her children are doing in school everything and give advice. I was like "OMG!! Since when did he become a councillor" And he even invited her to move to our city for a new start.
From what I remebered vaguely, this ex was his 2nd ex and it lasted a year or so. There were other Exes after her. One lasted for 3years and another for 5 years but he never did keep in touch with them. This is the only ex he's in touch with. Does she really mean a lot to him?it really is killing me inside thinking if she really is that important to him.
I called his best buddy and pretended to see how he was doing , then I found out from his best buddy that my husband and him don't keep in touch that often. Which made me feel insecure.
I am asking here for male opinions because I know most females would say it is not alright and there is no way exes should keep in touch.
Please help. Thank you very much in advance everyone. Sorry if I asked too many questions.