odd affair

[wingedphasmid]

An odd affair.?
I have been seeing a man for three months who is married and 33 years my senior, at 65. He is in a prominent position locally locally. It began with us befriending one another at a local event and chatting more and more over time.

It has gotten to the point we see one another every other day, not just for sex but as an integral part of each others lives, as well as texting over a hundred times a day. He says his relationship with his wife has deteriorated, and certainly he does little with her. At the beginning he said no emotional attachment but he now admits himself it has become that. Where do we go from here? I am no gold digger, having my own career, though he is wealthy and it may be assumed. We both worry how it would be seen but don't want to stop seeing one another.

[horrormoviegal]

Do you want more than what it currently is?

[wingedphasmid]

Well.. Yes..

[horrormoviegal]

Do you know if he does?

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Do you know if what you feel for him is real or if your just getting caught up in the moment of it all? Affairs are exciting and sometimes it is because they are forbidden that the seem like they are more than what they actually are. The sex is amazing and at times seems the best ever and you will say it's more than just sex ..there is a connection... there are feelings.... it is love. I won't tell you that you are wrong if you feel all of that when you are with him. I have been there. I know all too well how real all that can be.

[wingedphasmid]

Thank you. I do know exactly what you mean and that's just it. It does feel deeper than an affair but the practicalities make it difficult. We know most people would have a problem with it and there is the huge age gap. He said at the beginning that he wanted to stay in his marriage because of his age. Now his tune is changing but I don't think he knows what to do...

[Wakeup]

If his marriage has "deteriorated" does that mean that he's still going to remain it but just keep you around for sex or does it mean that he's going to leave his wife to be with you?

He's going to lose half of everything he owns if he leaves his wife. Do you think that he thinks you're worth that?

Somehow I doubt it.

How do you live with yourself. I'm sure you knew he was married when you first went down on him so why do you dislike yourself so much that you'd be with a married man that likely will never leave his wife for you?

You really should just be quiet and take your extra-curricular boinking when he gives you the time.

[wingedphasmid]

He is still in it but they do not have relations nor socialise together. He has been married thirty years.

[Wakeup]

He is still in it but they do not have relations nor socialise together. He has been married thirty years.

Like I said in my edit. He's going to lose everything if he leaves her so somehow I doubt he's going to do anything but keep boinking you. Why do you think so little of yourself that you'd get with a married man?

[wingedphasmid]

It honestly wasn't intended that way we did just click, cliché as it is

[dontaskme]

Would you leave him once he can't get "it" up anymore or would you cheat on him just like he is cheating on his wife?!

[wingedphasmid]

It isn't just sexual. We get along like a house on fire without the sex..

[dontaskme]

That's because you're on the honeymoon stage, so you're still enjoying each other's company. Once he's 80 and senile, and you're only 47, I doubt you'll stay with him, so why don't you do him and his wife the favor and leave them be.

And You know how many women post here of their sexual dissatisfaction with their partners? Never say it's never about sex... It always is!

[Wakeup]

So? Why don't you just be quiet like the good little piece on the side that you are and carry on?

It honestly wasn't intended that way we did just click, cliché as it is

That's not what I asked though. I asked why you care so little about yourself that you'd do what you're doing with a married man?

[garrodrebecca]

I suggest you to leave this relationship. I knew it's not possible for you now. But do you think once that if first he said that he has no emotions with his wife and then he said he has emotions with his wife. Actually first he wants to control your emotions for him and when he already succeed now he starts to play with your emotions. I do not find any love or any other relationship is there . Try to overcome it and find e healthy relationship for you.