did she love me?

[onegr8guy]

I had met this girl on an app and we started talking, she said she started to fall for me before we even met in person. We only talked on and off theN one day I couldn't get her off my mind and we started talking more and more non stop, so we then set up a day to go get drinks I met her at the bar and we were Having a good time. I was shy at the tim. Especially around girls, and I never been with a girl. But we were sitting at the bar and well she kissed me, I was so nervous cause I've never kissed a girl before. I'm guessing she liked me Cause she kissed me but I'm not really for sure, things are kind of rough right now and she will give me one answer and then 2 days later it will change

[basilandthyme]

I don't believe that we can truly love someone until we really get to know them. I'm talking months of face to face contact and dating.

If she's being flaky, pull back. Life is too precious to spend with someone who can't make up their mind.

[onegr8guy]

Yeah, I'm just confused right now, she had just gone through a divorce, we were together for 2 months but we were hanging out for 4. She was so happy in the beginning of the relationship I was a different guy she said. she was so happy when she would be sad I would drive u by here and we would snuggle and watch a movie or talk about what's wrong, mostly to deal with the ex and how he didn't want anything to do with their son. She then started school and was getting stressed out bad so we took a break from each other. We still hung out on and off. She has told me I am the right guy just the wrong time. Well now her ex is being all nice cause his relationship with his gfs hasn't worked out. Now he wants to get back together and stuff and now I'm caught in the middle. She still likes him I understand but he beat her,and talked down to her and cheated on her. I'm trying to help her from making a wrong decision but idk what to do

[basilandthyme]

You can't help her when it comes to keeping from a wrong decision. Her decision is hers and hers alone to make. If she's not wise and mature enough to avoid a guy who abused her, then she's not a good prospect for a partner anyway. You can't save her from herself.

The only decision-making you can have impact on are your own decisions. You need to decide if you want to wait around for a girl who only hangs out on and off and who has a thing for her ex.