odds of her getting back with her ex husband?

[onegr8guy]

I was on an app one day talking about this girl that made me feel hopeless, I then met this great girl on this app, her husband cheated on her,beat, talked down to her and she was having a rough time, so we started chatting and ended up hooking up, I'll admit it was my first relationship. She had divorced her husband and was so happy. She was soo happy she had me. Now that all changed. She was stressed out starting school and she has her 5yr old son that they had together. So we separated for The mean time. She has said I'm the right guy it's just the wrong time. And I know she misses the family life
I assured her I'd help her out with things and be a great father figure for her son. She was going to move out of her parents and said I could stay every weekend with her cause she lives in a different city for now.(60miles away) now everything changed and.I'm confused and lost, the ex before never wanted anything to do with his own son and now the past couple weeks he has changed, he wants to spend time with her and him again I'm guessing because he couldn't get the other girls he tried for. I know they still.might have feelings for each other yet but would you guys know what the odds of them getting back together might be?

Right now I'm just heartbroken and confused cause she has told me they wearnt getting back together when I ask about the situation and then one day I get told they are or are talking about it, she then said she highly doubts it they will.

[Jffs24]

Dude if she'd go back to a guy that abused her physically and verbally she clearly has little to no self worth and she can't say it's for the kid either -- what mother would want her kid to grow up in an abusive home? Find out if she went back to him, ask her directly and if she says yes, move on, she's a fool and she isn't looking for a better life or a better guy, so go find a woman who really is.

[eve.ashley]

it can be very hard to leave an abusive relationship.

abusers are not always evil sadistic bastards.

my ex grew up sadistically tortured by his father, sexually, emotionally and physically...

he was very abusive and toxic, but he was a very troubled man who did not become this way coz he was a bad person, he is simply a survivor of years of torture.

feels very shitty to walk out on a man who is crying and reaching out to you, and he is simply ill, not evil.

i thought therapy might help us.

the truth was i should not have stayed with him, for my own good,and his, he could not stop being abusive and we just suffered both of us very much...

the thing with abusive relationship is, you try to walk away, the abusive person does not let you and they abuse you and victimize you.

now you are abused and traumatized and not thinking clearly...

so, i would say, that she does not necessarily have to be a fool. she was simply unlucky to come across a troubled abusive man, and things spiraled out of control.

what helped me leave the quick sand of my bad relationship was another man.

i had moved to a new country, and my first partner there happened to be this troubled abusive man.

all the new people i knew were his friends and did not care much for me and some of them even blamed his abuse on me, if you could believe.

trying to walk away, he would cry and beg for a chance and he really had very good reasons for being that troubled...

so bit by bit i got way in over my had and pretty soon i was too traumatized to think straight...

this new man was there for me, and kept telling me the truth.

the toxic relationship should end. nobody should treat anyone the way he treated me and i am not to put up with it, just coz he had a very rough childhood...etc.

my point being, i am really not sure if i would find the strength and sense to walk away before we kill each other, if i did not have an honest friend, who cared about me, and told me the truth.

he did not judge me, or preach, he was there for me when i was in great pain and he never gave up on me...
(i make it sound simple,he would get frustrated and angry loads of times, but he tried his best to be my friend)


this woman needs you, she should absolutely not go back to her ex, make sure you tell her this, and if she does ask her to be friends...

this is more for her than you, but please do not give up on her...

you have no idea how an abusive relationship can happen to any woman and before she knows it she is now too traumatized to think rationally...

it was very hard on me to walk out on man whose father would starve him, rape him then feed him feces....

it took someone else to tell me that i have to choose between myself and this man, and that it's ok to choose myself, it doesn't mean i approve of the things done to my ex, or think he is a bad man.

she really needs you now...please be there for her...

tell her she has no right to take her kid back to an abusive environment...tell her whatever you won't but do not go down without a fight.

once she is better and thinking straight she will be very grateful for you and what you have done..