Hi guys,
Hoping you can help me with this one.
I've recently come back from a year of travelling so this 'story' has 2 parts to it.
Before I left I worked with a guy who was married, however he was incredibly flirty, things like always hugging me, and kissing me when he greeted me (just the head or cheek), telling me how good I look, making comments all the time about how I mess with his head and mentioning what he would like to do with me.
Anyways, he was married and I went travelling for a year, granted I still thought about him more than I should, which is stupid as nothing ever happened.
However, I've just come back and have returned to work on an irregular basis to find that he has (6 weeks ago) separated from his wife. Granted he seems pretty upset about it from what I can gather as he mentioned missing his kids and how she just came out and told him she didn't love him anymore. I still however really like him and don't know where I stand or what to do next.
I stupidly made the mistake of messaging him the other evening telling him I hoped he had a nice night, random, made no sense and something I can pass off as not meant for him (when he sees it) but I'm mortified now as I feel he's gonna know why it ended up with him.
I'm not sure I want to put myself in the position of him knowing I like him and secondly I'm concerned that he has said all the previous stuff because he was unavailable, though he has said a couple of wee things but nothing on par with previously.
I guess I just want a guys take on all this. I'm not sure what I'm asking exactly. Maybe should I let him know? Do guys tell girls they find them attractive if they don't? How soon is too soon?