I was in a relationship with someone for 6 months, it just ended last week.
For the first three months, things were great. He'd never had a girlfriend before (he's 28, also never had sex before) but we made it work. We had fun together and kept things happy. From December until now, he became very emotionally withdrawn after I had too much to drink one night, which he didn't like. He didn't want to have sex and didn't seem interested in doing things together. One particular weekend, I had to convince him to even have sex with me. It was like we clocked in and clocked out every weekend and watched netflix together, sometimes go out for a beer or dinner. I was confused because things seemed to turn so quickly. At one particular point I even expressed to him "I miss you" (he was out of town for the weekend) and he responded with a check mark emoji and said "I'm not real relationshippy if you haven't noticed."
Things came to a head in late january and we discussed improving our relationship and moving onwards together. I had hopes because we both seeemed like we wanted to make it work. However, the verynext week, he bailed on an event in which he was going to meet my friends for the first time (5 months into dating). Apparently us sleeping in the same bed was a huge issue because he can't sleep well whenever someone is next to him. He told me that because I slept over with him the night before, I lost all chances for him to be social with me and that he wasn't sure why I was so confused/hurt/etc. I was really disappointed and told him such, yet he never tried to make it up to me, he never apologized for not going, etc. Simply said it was my fault for sleeping over, my fault for not understanding, and that I had no right to be upset.
I cheated on him shortly after with an old friend that happened to be coming to my area one weekend. He came over to catch up and talk, which was a poor idea in the first place. We had wine, one thing led to another, and I cheated. No I'm not proud of it, but it happened. I didn't tell my boyfriend for a few weeks. In the meantime, the few weeks between were not reflective of our relationship moving upward - For example, on Valentine's day, we watched Seinfeld and got takeout - which there is no problem with, but I expressed the idea that I wanted to go out to dinner and his response to me was "Well I don't feel like making reservations anywhere." Two weeks ago, he made comments that he liked my "old body" (about fifteen pounds lighter - back when I was struggling with an eating disorder/exercise addiction in 2013) and that I should get back to that point.
After about two weeks, I couldn't take it anymore. Finally, my guilt overcame me and I confessed. He broke up with me on the spot and didn't understand how I could have done what I did.
Apparently he told his mom (who is friendly with my mom and relayed this message to me) that he "really loved me" and was ready to take our relationship to the "next level." Nothing we ever did together was indicative of this.
I have sent him a few emails to which he responded, but he ultimately said that he owes me nothing and that if we do speak again, it will be on his terms. I understand where he is coming from and I know what I did was completely wrong. I know I will never cheat again but I am having a really hard time forgiving myself and moving on. I don't want to hold out hope for him because I don't think it's going to happen, but I do wish I could say what I need to say to him.
What should I do, and why all of a sudden is he rewriting history?