Hey all,
I kind of need advice on communication with my boyfriend. I need to mention that he has PTSD before I go too much into detail with this. Continuing on. I know that communication is a key factor in relationships. I've been trying to and I'm failing terribly. So, here's what's going on. First, he wants things to be physical between us but will not literally sleep with me in the same bed. He wants to leave shortly afterwards. He and I work different shifts plus he has some sleeping issues related to the PTSD. He's told me that he doesn't want to wake me if when he leaves because he often sleeps during the day due to work So, I offered a key so he could let himself out as you cannot lock the door when leaving without using a key. He didn't want the key. I've asked if the PTSD was the reasoning thinking that part of his sleeping issues might leave me hurt or something. I really thought that would be what the case was which I would've understood that but he said that wasn't it. Then there's the other case that I've been trying to discuss with him. Saturday is pretty much the only day that neither of us have conflicting work schedules. A little over a week ago now I made arrangements for a babysitter so that we could go see a movie that we both wanted to see. I told him that I was going to do so as I wasn't able to do anything with him on his birthday and that I would cover the cost. He went home, went to sleep, and didn't wake up until after 10pm which was too late for the movie anx he texted me telling me he was coming over. By this point I had texted him several times and given up on him. Then this past weekend he went to spend time with his mother which I perfectly understand and have no complaints on because it's his mother. What kind of hurt me though was when he come by my apartment only long enough to tell me that he was going to go home to go to sleep so that he could go play poker at his friends house then he told me that he would come by around midnight to see me. When he text me around 1am instead I told him I was going to bed and acted like he was offended. I've mentioned before that I've attempted talking with him but when I did he just got mad at me and told me to stop giving him shit about what he does. I feel like he acts like he only wants a friend with benefits even though he wanted to make things exclusive between us. I've gotten pretty discouraged and I guess I'm just trying to make one last final attempt to communicate with him on it before I break it off with him because that's not the first couple times he's done that.