I'm looking for some advice.
There is this girl, Leah, that I've known for at least 10 years, since middle school. I never asked her out for fear it would ruin our friendship if she said no. Now 5 years out of high school, I've moved across the country, am married, and have a two-year old daughter. Now Leah is the only person from school that I have kept in contact with (unbeknownst to my wife). I know now by her emails, Leah would probably have gone out with me in school, if I had asked. Now I love my duaghter, but things are a bit rocky with my wife and I don't see us staying together. I'm debating with myself on whether I should just stay put or move back to be with Leah. She's all I think about anymore and I check for her emails like 10 times a day. Any advice would be appreciated.
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11-06-05, 12:07 PM #1
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What to do?
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11-06-05, 02:19 PM #2
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One Thing at a Time
Offhand, I'd say your daughter should be the central consideration any decision you make.
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11-06-05, 03:26 PM #3
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(shaking my head ) I can't imagine how a man who says he loves his daughter would be willing to abandon her for a childhood crush. All marriages have rough spots - that is where the "commitment" part is supposed to kick in. And why have you been sneaking around behind your wife's back about keeping in touch with this woman? Looks like you may have been planning this for longer than you are admitting...
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11-06-05, 04:46 PM #4
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how convenient that your marriage is rocky and there's a girl you liked in high school to chat it up and make you think about how horrible your life is and how great it would be with this girl who says she would've said yes if you asked her out ten years ago. it's no wonder your marriage is on the rocks because YOU'RE TALKING TO ANOTHER WOMAN who is more appealing because YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE WITH HER EVERYDAY. tell me, what have you done to work it out with your wife? talking to this other woman behind her back is not going to help it. you need to STOP talking to this other woman and WORK IT OUT WITH YOUR WIFE and have some freakin' integrity.
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12-06-05, 01:06 AM #5
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oh yeah, and welcome to the forum.
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12-06-05, 05:59 PM #6
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plain and simple... "the grass is always greener on the other side". think about the meaning of this quote and you'll have my answer.
raverboy...this is just my perspective on the situation...
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27-06-05, 12:41 PM #7
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I have been in this situation many times...do you know if Leah feels this way about you ? DOnt take any risk to loose everything. I am in a similar situation now. Think about it wisely and dont settle for anything but happiness Originally Posted by mikeky82
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27-06-05, 02:49 PM #8
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Wise words. Originally Posted by frenchwom5
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."
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Happiness is subjective and is fluid. What makes you happy one day, you might hate the next.
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Originally Posted by shh!
And your point is? Thats why I love the saying "live in the moment".Last edited by Only-virgins; 27-06-05 at 03:26 PM.
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."
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05-07-05, 01:03 AM #11
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Hmm... but how old is your daughter?
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"...but things are a bit rocky with my wife and I don't see us staying together..."
And when things get "a bit rocky" with the other woman you're already cheating on your wife with, then what? Replace the word "wife" with her name and do it all over again? I'm don't think a father can afford to be -- or should be -- that fickle. (Think: "child support"; "alimony"; "lawyers, guns and money.")
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05-07-05, 03:21 AM #13
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Mikeyky82 i wouldnt go after this girl leah. You are marriage act like it you have a kid and a wife. Dont go after some high school crush just because its a little rocky with your wife. Relationship arent always easy try and make it work dont think about this girl work on getting the rocky time back to normal.
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