Hey all! A couple months back, I posted a thread about my ex...im almost ashamed to say that im still on the fence about all of this :/
So, we were together for over one year, we broke up because he moved(my mother didn't let me visit him because she feels that its his place to visit me, and he hasn't even gotten a job yet so he doesn't have money to see me) I haven't seen him in a year, we broke up officially around 9 months ago.
Ok. So, he still acts like we never broke up. He texts good morning, good night, I love you, I miss you, and even expects me to say these things back to him. I obviously dont, because I dont feel like it's appropriate, and I have said it straight up: "I will not say those things back to you because im not your girlfriend anymore." He tries to be slick and claim that friends say those things to each other all the time, but I sure dont text one of my friends "Goodnight, I love you" every single night before bed. And I never will. It honestly makes me uncomfortable.
The thing is, I have no negative feelings towards him, but the situation is just making me feel really weird. My mom asks about him all the time, asks if I talk to him(and acts really surprised oddly enough when I say that I haven't...It's almost as if she expects me to still be heavily involved in his life or something?), goes on and on about how much she liked him, etc...but I dunno...I just feel weird about it. I mean, I feel kinda stupid just walking away from a guy who didn't do anything to hurt me. But at the same time, I'm turning 18...I feel like I wanna be out there meeting different guys(not necessarily dating them, however...) whom I could be more compatible with. Like, I definitely do not believe in the concept of a soul mate, but I know in my next relationship I want more...I want to have more values in common, more hobbies in common. Like, I know there are sweet guys out there who I can talk about philosophical things with as well as silly things with at the same time. Someone who would love to travel with me, sit around and play video games with me, and who I can bond with on a deeper level...I guess Im looking for more of a mental connection? (And please, if my expectations are too high, let me know) Looking back on our relationship, yeah we had fun together(and made out a lot lol) but...I guess that was just it? My memory could be fuzzy or something lol
I feel like we're holding on to each other, and theres no point anymore. What to do? How can I get him to understand that I dont think we should get back together? (I've told him this before, but he wont listen, and I dont know what to do anymore)