Just because you love her, it doesn't mean you should stay in a relationship with her. Love has very little to do with anything when you're worried every single day she goes to work with the father of the child you're raising as your own.
No, I have never dealt with what you're going through. I would never stay with someone that was still working with the person they are screwing. Don't kid yourself, odds are high they are still very much at it.
I will say that I found out that my brother was really only a half brother when I was 18 and he was 21. It didn't change a thing as far as we were concerned. We were still very much siblings and we loved our father all the same. (we had same mother, different father but adopted my brother when he was almost two and I was yet to be born).
You'd think the mother would at least leave the work place where her lover is the boss if she had any respect for you, herself or the child if she's going to allow you to raise him as if you were the bio dad.
Think twice and consider getting a lawyer to find out what your responsibilities/rights are now and will be if you continue on in this relationship.
Last edited by Wakeup; 13-05-15 at 10:10 AM.
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