Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
Something like that shouldn't necessarily be the only important thing about a relationship, but the fact of the matter is that it can be important. I can understand why a guy not having a college degree would be somewhat make or break for you. You want to know that he can be on a relatively even plane with you financially. You want to trust that he can provide for you and for whatever family you two may have had in the future.
So, believe me, as much as it makes you almost feel a little wrong to leave somebody over money, the fact of the matter is it is NOT wrong. You are not the one making it about money, he is by insisting throughout your whole relationship that he had career aspirations only for that to prove to be a lie.
To be 100% honest, if that is the life he wants, that is perfectly fine. However, that is obviously NOT the life you want, and you've apparently been clear about that with him from the start. He misled you to believe you two were on the same page only to string you along and lie. What reason has he given you to believe he will change? What makes his promises more sincere now than the years you've already spent waiting for him to do something with his life only to be disappointed?
If you two agreed to live a lifestyle that didn't require him to have a college degree, then that would be fine. Instead, he pretended as though he wanted the same life you did, but refused to put in any of the work it takes to build that. That is NOT okay.
Personally, from experience, my advice to you would be not to take him back now or ever. That will have to be your decision, but if he hasn't changed in years, I find it doubtful he suddenly will now. Even if he does wind up finally going to college, chances are he will constantly have a life-long struggle with committing to any job because he obviously does not have the motivation to have a career.
Good luck to you.