Hello!
It would be extremely grateful to gain some insight from you guys out there.
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He was my music tutor. Nothing dodgy, we're in our 30s.
A few months ago he stopped teaching to have an operation. I sent him a thank you email after our last lesson, and suggested a drinks catchup at some point. (We have never met up for drinks outside before). He wrote back thanking me for my thoughtful email, that drinks sounds great and he'd get in touch when he's free.
Two months later, he texted me and said he was returning back to work soon and if I wanted to start lessons again, that he had been meaning to meet up for drinks but was very broke.
I responded back saying I was unable to start lessons with him right now as I was busy with a heap of other music related activities. I didn't mention the drinks. He wrote back very happy that I was out and about progressing my goals, and that he wants to see me soon for drinks soon nonetheless cos he wants to hear all about what I have been up to.
I wrote back saying that I'd 'see him around'.
A friend later commented that my response didn't sound very enthusiastic, and is something you would respond to a guy you weren't interested in. I fancy him, have fancied him for a long time actually, but we both have fairly reserved personalities. Most of our dialogue has happened inside the studio during our weekly sessions (usually not more than 10mins conversation).
Anyway in light of that! three weeks after my last msg, I texted him to suggested a drink next week. He hasn't responded yet - a day now.
He is usually consistent with answering messages, but I don't know if he might be freaking out. I would be happy to let him take the lead to ask me when he felt ready to, but I got the feeling that it was my turn to do something. Rather than making him do ALL the work.
He seemed keen on catching up, but could he be freaking out that I actually attempted to make it happen? I have no idea. I would really hate it if he was only being enthusiastic in his responses because he felt like he needed to. If he wasnt up for the drinks, I would prefer he didn't keep bringing it up. He comes across to me as a reliable person, so I kind of have faith he means what he says. But, I can be so wrong sometimes.
Any ideas why he may be taking his time to respond?
Much appreciated!