Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
There is a such thing as being too nice. Without being closer to your situation, I can't really say if that is the case. I can just tell you that I've had experience with this in the past. I used to be a little too nice for my own good. I've been through a lot of crap in my life to the point where, in the past, I have shut down from the world completely. I always come out of it stronger than ever, though. One thing I REFUSE to let this craptacular world change about me is that, no matter how much I sometimes may wish this wasn't the case, I'm a nice guy. So, I refuse to change that about me..... however I'm very selective about who gets to benefit from my "nice guy" side, and I've better learned the limits of when it is time for no more Mr. Nice Guy. (No more Mr. Clee-e-e-ean)
The good news here is you are still young. 20! You are practically still a kid. There is nothing to be ashamed about that you are still a virgin. All the same, it sounds like a few women have hurled some pretty obvious singles at you that you admit yourself you missed. I mean, a girl was stimulating you with her hands and you didn't try to make a move at that point? Of course she'd be likely to feel a bit rejected from that.
You are nervous. That is understandable. Thing is, that isn't going to change unless you start trying. Now, as for this girl you met online.... you are from a different country, so a relationship is pretty unlikely. Even so, from your own admission, it sounds like she barely ever can bother to make time for you. In fact, even worse, it sounds to me like she HAS the time, but just doesn't bother to spend any of it with you. After all, you mentioned if you say something to compliment her she almost always responds right away, yet other times she does not. So, for that specific girl, I say time to move on. "Next" her, as the kids are saying these days.
For your overall experiences, without really knowing more of the details, I can't say what you could be doing wrong or what you should change. What you need to do, though, is make some effort to open up a little more. I am not saying it is easy, but the only way to really figure out what you may be doing wrong is to seriously examine where things seem to have gone wrong. Are you opening up too much too fast? Are you not opening up enough? Is there something specific you are doing that could be driving them away? Only you can really answer those questions.
Good luck to you.