Should I be concerned about our relationship?

[nwalker7]

My long time friend and I started dating 6 months ago. Things have been casual, but really great.

Three weeks ago we had an amazing weekend together with friends. Then, I had a vacation planned, and he then had a business trip. He's had a lot of stress at work and has been pretty down. But he hasn't initiated contact since right before I left on my vacation. We usually talk at least once per day. I was invited on his best friend's birthday weekend a while back... and I'm not sure what to do. I text him a few days ago asking if I should still plan on the trip, and he said "yeah, of course" nothing more.

Should I leave it alone and assume stress? I definitely don't want to cause him any more by harassing him about it. I just feel like it's different.

[Wakeup]

Are you guys long distance?

[TheEvilJester]

Have you guys still been talking at least once a day, even if it has has to be you initiating? On average, how long do you tend to talk throughout any given day? How often do you see each other? As Wakeup asked, are you long distance?

If you are comfortable answering these questions, we can perhaps better comment. Still, sometimes life happens and you get really busy, and/or a little down in the dumps. It could just be one or both of those in his case. If things were fine/great when you two left for your respective trips, it seems doubtful anything would have gone wrong since then. Did you at least check in with each other here and there during your trips?

Still, you definitely shouldn't always have to feel like you are the only one making any effort. If this continues much longer, I would suggest you stop initiating contact for a while. Either he'll take the hint and be the first to reach out, or he won't and you two will just stop talking. If he doesn't bother, that tells you all you need to know, and I'd say that is the time to tell him to take a hike. But, hopefully it never has to come to that point.