My first love !!!

[Justm]

Hello !!! I am 20 years and I have been in love with a girl in my university for 9 months ! It's the first time i feel like this ! A couple of months ago we started talking and i wanted to talk to her but I couldn't ! Yesterday she was leaving for her hometown for holidays and i wrote her a message where i told her everything ! I spoke to her like I was talking to myself ! I told everything about I feel for her ! She told that she hadn't thought of me that way , that she doesn't know what to say and that she thinks she is somewhere else emotially ! She broke up with her ex 4 months ago , he wants her back , she has feelings for him but she won't go back to him ! We haven't spoke since that day but i still love her and I will always love her . What is your advise ?? I will see her again in September. What can I do untill then ?? May I chat to her and if yes what can I write to her ? Please help me !

[smackie9]

You f uckin blew it man. Listen you never EVER just tell someone who barely even knows you/ not in a relationship with, that you have been obsessively in love with the last for 9 months...that's real creepy. She will never talk to you again.....she is totally freaked out....she thinks you are weird (trust me she does)... harsh as it is you need to grow up/mature, you are not in elementary school here....this is not how adults behave.

Socially you need to work on your skills to get over your anxiety talking to girls. Just go hang out talk to random girls you are not attracted to for practice. Go to socially events at your uni to push you out of your comfort zone. Next, if you like a girl ask her out....that's how it's done to find a GF. If you can't talk to a girl, then you can't possibly have her as a GF.

As for you being in love, it's not love it's called infatuation. Please read and hopefully you can get over this girl and don't get like this again.[url=http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheri-meyers/if-this-isnt-real-love-wh_b_4241987.html]If This Isn't Real Love, What Is? The Fallibility of InfatuationÂ*|Â*Sheri Meyers[/url]

[Joanna_L]

I don't really agree with smackie9.
I think it was brave of you to tell her how you feel!
(even if it was written down!)
Maybe you should give her some time & space to think about it. so you don't seem pushy.

Just wait for a bit then maybe after a couple of weeks ask her out on a date or something.
Good luck!