I'll try my best to keep this brief!
A few months ago I was approached in a bar by a woman and we hit it off, I'm 40 with a teenage son who I see every other weekend and she's 24 with no children. I was upfront with her straight off the bat about my age, she couldn't believe I was 40, which to be fair nobody does, but I don't really want to go too deep into our appearance as I don't think it's really important. The evening at the bar was light hearted and I didn't think too much into it because of the age gap, even though I thought she was great. We swapped numbers at the end of the night and I left it there.
Long story short, what I thought was a short term bit of fun is now in a place where there are real feelings involved, for both of us. We've both tried to keep it very relaxed and to be fair we have, but we both know that it's getting more serious as you'd expect from spending time with someone that you have such a good connection with. Although I have a good job, I'm definitely not sugar Daddy material, plus she's extremely independent, has a good job and her own place so doesn't need one. I definitely wasn't looking to be with a much younger woman, it just happened, I don't see it as an ego boost thing either.
I'm at the stage now where I'm torn between living in the now, enjoying this wonderful woman and try not to worry that she's 16 years younger, the probability that she's yet to really find herself and experience things that come with being in your 20's can offer or give in to my anxiety which is telling me there are too many pit falls in this kind of age gap relationship, that I don't want to be left on the shelf, heart broken in my early to mid 40's when this younger woman suddenly decides she wants to do the travelling thing or isn't ready to settle down!
Obviously there are no guarantees with any relationship, regardless of age gap, but when it's an age gap like this I find it hard to ignore it!
Thanks for listening