BOY, Did I Screw This Up...

[MooCow]

Hi all;

Well, there’s a girl that me and a bunch of others used to hang out with. She had initially been flirting with me awhile back, but ended up stopping. After going through a rough breakup with someone, she starts dating someone else. She knows she shot me down, so she tried to be nice to me. I threw it in her face, and have regretted it ever since. I realize how much of a jerk I truly was.

All this was back in March. I don’t see her again until July (I hadn’t tried to speak to her or see her in the time between). She was nice to me, we even had a couple of conversations. I saw her again recently, and I brought up the possibility of us hanging out again, to which I got a noncommittal “yeah.”

I do feel really bad about how I treated her, and I want to hang out with her as friends even if nothing ever happens between us. I’m going to try to organize a night out soon. What do you guys think? Is she sincere about being willing to hang out again or is she just faking it?

Let me know if you need more info.

Thanks.

[basilandthyme]

Sorry, it doesn't sound like she wants to hang out. At least she didn't give a whole fake "yes, we must do that soon!!" response.

Out of curiosity, are you wanting to hang out with her 1:1 or in a group of mutual friends including her boyfriend? The former would no longer be appropriate but the latter could possibly be worked towards. Likewise, don't expect to have a close friendship with her.

Anyway, if you're happy to hang out with her in company, give it more time. Be unfailingly polite but don't push it.

[smackie9]

I'm seeing right through you. No one makes this much effort unless they are emotionally invested. I know all about "At least we could be friends". It's just another way to get your foot in the door in hopes there could be a connection or chemistry....since some time has passed and maybe just maybe things might be different this time.. You are the one who is "faking it". She sees right through you too the min you asked her to hang out. She's no idiot, she knows what you are up to, that's why she backed right up. She has no interest in you and never will......she doesn't trust your motives. It's time to drop it and move on.

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Let me know if you need more info.

Thanks.

When someone posts this....this is a desperate call out in hopes someone will tell them what they really want to hear....that this girl could like them.