Am I overreacting?

[QuadFang]

Long time reader, first time poster. I'll get right to it. My girlfriends best friend moved closer to us in May, she was across the country previously. So me and my girl were talking about the area she moved to, it's a popular vacation spot. She mentioned she knew a guy named Joe that lived down there that she had met on tinder last year. Didn't think much of it. She went to visit her, and told me she was going to see what Joe was up to, and try to introduce her to her friend. That didn't happen but I was weary...

This past weekend she went to visit her friend Friday, and then we had a wedding Saturday to go to. We were driving Saturday and she asked me to text her friend, sure no problem. Well there's Joe at the top of her text threads. It was my girlfriend asking him where they were going to hang out the night before....again he was unavailable and they didn't go out.

So obviously I asked her about this. She got somewhat defensive about it. But again said Jill, i'll use that as her friends name, has a hard time meeting people, she has social anxiety, and still has no friends down here, so I figured I would see if Joe wanted to come get a drink with us and introduce the two.

The next day I brought it up again and asked if it was acceptable for me to still be in touch with people I talked to from dating sites, she said I have no need to do that as my friends are either in relationships or have no problem meeting people, and that i'm overreacting and really frustrating her?!?!

Now she is very unresponsive and being short with me. Should have I kept this concern to myself? Am I wrong for asking about this? I told her that it makes me feel like she is keeping her options open while with me, why else would she be trying to get another guy to go out with her. I don't know maybe i'm looking at this wrong. Thanks for any input.

[megvoh]

Could be suspect, her reaction was off some.
No shouldn't keep worries to yourself and should have went 1 step more and told her quit with Jill and Joe in particular matchmaking. Let Jill do it herself, anxiety or not.
Is Joe good looking, type your gf would fancy?

[QuadFang]

Could be suspect, her reaction was off some.
No shouldn't keep worries to yourself and should have went 1 step more and told her quit with Jill and Joe in particular matchmaking. Let Jill do it herself, anxiety or not.
Is Joe good looking, type your gf would fancy?

I assume he is/she would considering she "swiped right" on tinder showing interest in him.

[megvoh]

WTF, why did she swipe right on him , that is wrong if you both were dating.
Joe shouldn't be a concern for her specially if this bothers you.

[QuadFang]

WTF, why did she swipe right on him , that is wrong if you both were dating.
Joe shouldn't be a concern for her specially if this bothers you.

This was last year she was matched with him on tinder, we weren't dating yet. She showed me the text convo and she hasn't talked to him since last summer, then started asking him to go out with her and her friend when she was visiting her about an hour away.