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    Complimenting a woman and not asking for her number

    So I approached a woman I see practically once a week or so at a social event, and gave her a compliment that seemed to leave her practically speechless and blushing in a good way. When leaving the event she approached me, inquiring a little info about me and few other things. After answering I took the opportunity to expound a little more on my admiration of her then left saying “see you soon, and have a great night”.
    I wonder, since I didn’t ask for her phone number, purposely by the way, what type of impression might she have had???

    Your perspective is appreciated. And GO!!!!

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    Should that have happened to me, I'd assume you were giving a nice compliment with no ulterior motive (such as wanting a date)

    Though now you've got me wondering why you asked. DO you have an ulterior motive with her?
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    I am responding to this more so because I would like to follow along with the answers others provide. This is very similar to a question I myself have about how exactly you should transition from something like that into actually asking a girl out/asking for her phone number. It's another aspect that kind of perplexes me. How to go from whatever random topic you are discussing ("Hey, how about this weather?) to actually asking for her number/ a date without it seeming awkward.

    Back to the original topic, though.... I am a guy so I cannot speak from a woman's perspective. However, I would think this would leave a good impression. It wouldn't show that you were only interested in hitting on her just like any other guy, yet at the same time wouldn't give the definite impression that you WEREN'T interested in dating her. I would think it would leave a good impression and you could very well continue to be friendly with her going forward. You could ask her out another time and might actually be more likely to get a yes since she'd not think of you as just any other guy hitting on her.

    That is just my thoughts, though. Not being a gal myself, I could be completely wrong.

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    When I was 20 I used to leave girls speechless just by looking at them for 3 seconds. So My guess you are good looking you might be her type in terms of looks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by basilandthyme View Post
    Should that have happened to me, I'd assume you were giving a nice compliment with no ulterior motive (such as wanting a date)

    Though now you've got me wondering why you asked. DO you have an ulterior motive with her?
    Surprisingly no...there'should no motive then to just be myself and not come off like "any other guy". That's actually why I didn't ask for her number because I knew that is what "any other guy" would have done. I'm more apt to just ride the wave and see where it goes to be honest.

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    I agree with you 100% in that approach, but I feel like people tend to advise just the opposite. I could be wrong, but I feel like people tend to say you should just go for it and ask the gal out/ask for her number.

    For me, I always feel like I don't want to just talk to a girl once and then ask for her number because of this exact reason. It makes me feel like I'm coming across as "just any other guy." Like, I'm sure some women must get sick of every guy pretending to be nice and interested in her only to ask her out. I don't want to give the impression that I'm just any other guy who just goes around hitting on women all the time.

    Me, I'd much rather talk to a girl a few times and if it seems like we get along, then ask her out. I feel like you normally seem to see advice to the contrary, though.

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