Advice please

[Michaeljones]

Ok so me and this girl dated for 6 months...no arguments or dilemmas at all. She travels some so one night she said she couldn't see our future and she was just so wishy washy in her head. We didn't talk for 2 weeks and then she came home. Said she missed me but didn't want to jump back into anything because she still didn't know if I was the one or not. We hugged and hung out and she said she is so happy when she is with me. I went over there the other night and just made up a story that she was right and we agreed to be friends. Tonight she said she missed me and didn't want to be without me, that she couldn't stop crying every time she though of me. She said she wants this week alone to figure out if she misses me or the thought of me. She agrees she will never find anyone like me and that I treat her like a princess. I really want this to work out but don't know what to do.

[basilandthyme]

Whatever you do, don't be her cuddle buddy or emotional tampon. Too often, girls (and probably to a lesser degree, boys) don't want to commit to the relationship but want all the emotional trimmings. Meanwhile the not-partner finds themselves giving, giving, giving all the emotions but getting no relationship in return.

I think it's good that she's taking this week to figure things out. But I strongly suggest that if she comes back wanting you as a 'friend' that you say No. Explain to her that having her as a friend would only serve to remind you of what you can't have and that it won't help you get over her.

If she's got a good heart, she will understand. If she's selfish, she won't understand....but remind her that if she *really* wants you in her life, she can have you as a boyfriend.

I hope she wants to pick the relationship back up. But if not, don't accept second best.