My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. Over the last few months, his negativity/constant complaints/pessimistic viewpoints have been weighing me down immensely and I find it difficult to be happy and upbeat when I’m around him. For the first time this weekend, he noticed I seemed “down” (he may have noticed before but this was the first time he’s really consulted with me about it – Other than asking the simple “what’s wrong?”) He asked me why I seem unhappy most of the time. I tried to explain to him, in the nicest way possible, that being around someone who is constantly negative, pessimistic, angry, easily irritated and judgmental makes it difficult for me to remain in high spirits. Examples: If we go out somewhere and it’s really packed, he will act like a borderline mad man and use derogatory names for the people around him / he gets extreme road rage / makes racist comments frequently.. in public / speaks negatively about almost any topic & sees the worst in almost every situation. When I explained how I felt, he quickly told me not to blame him for the fact that I am on anti-depressants. He says that he’s not to blame for my depression problems. I am on anti-depressants and have been for a while, but they are mild and I am not depressed and haven’t been in a long time. If he could see how I am around other people, he would realize that I am “happy” and “upbeat” and that my anti-depressants aren’t the “issue” here. Do I have the right to be offended and hurt that he would take a sensitive matter like this and throw it in my face? Not just because he wouldn’t accept responsibility, but the fact that this came off as such a low blow.. What are your thoughts?