Hi, I'm new

[Jambo]

Hi, my name is Jamin. I'm 21 and I'm a scorpio. Is that okay for an introduction? Well, anyway, I found this forum on Google because I was looking for a love forum to talk to other people and, of course, get some advice because I'm going through a bit of a rough time. I would post this in another forum, but there really isn't a forum on here that quite fits my problem.

So, here it goes: a young woman, 22, moves to town because she's the new english teacher/girls coach at my old high school. She's 6'2" and drop-dead gorgeous. Eventually my family invited her over for dinner and ever since we were introduced to each other we've started building a decent friendship. Anyway, she broke up with her fiance during her junior year of college after they were together for 3 years. After she moved her she started going out with a guy, but that didn't last but a few weeks. Now, I guess she's really not looking for a long term relationship because she never really recovered from her break-up with her fiance 2 or 3 years earlier. Which is probably why she didn't last long with this other guy. But she doesn't seem to mind fooling around because she was with this one guy after this last break-up, but that's all over and I haven't heard anything new, since.

Anyway, nowadays we usually chat for at least a good hour, sometimes two, on MSN Messenger about every night. I do little favors for her whenever she hits me up for one because she always has a full workload, even this summer. I watch her little jack russel for her when she goes away for the weekend for State Track, State Forensics (drama), and the little softball and basketball games that she coaches in. So, it's safe to say that we've built up a lot of trust in each other. But regardless, she only sees me as just a friend. She said that she likes hanging out with me because I'm the only guy that doesn't hit on her. And she genuinely seems to enjoy my presence.

So, she's 6'2" and she'll turn 23 on the 21. And I'm 6'0" and I'll be 22 on Nov. 11. Two inches and a year and a half apart. I say this because she mentioned that she would never date a guy shorter than her.

Right now, I'm convinced that I've fallen in love with her and was hoping that there was someone else that has gone through a similar situation. So, any opinions on my situation would be greatly appreciated. I mean, do you think that the whole height thing is bullshit because she wants to spare my feelings or what?

[Illusional]

whoa.. i think that was the longest intro that i've ever seen on this site.

raverboy

[Jambo]

well, maybe I'll move it to the Dating forum...I realize it was a tad long, but as I mentioned I didn't know what Forum would be appropriate...

[Illusional]

when i think about it, your intro was basically the first paragraph, the rest was your dilemma.

raverboy

[Jambo]

yeah, that was my intention. I guess my real question to anyone that stubbles across this thread is: what can I possibly do to try and get her out of my head? To be honest, she's kind of out of my league, but I'm just too fixated on her to just give up. A few more details on my situation is: I'm out of college and stil at home, working for $7.50 and hour until someone responds to my resume. I get the feeling that if I had my own place, she would act a little more interested in me, but that's probably too much to hope for. Really, anyone's point of view would be welcome. Negative or positive. I just need some feedback. Seriously, throw me a frickin' bone here.

[Illusional]

*throws you a bone*

fetch... good dog, good dog.

raverboy

[jujuBean]

Heeeey, I also went to Google to find this place! I wasn't actually looking for advice, though.

I just wanted to see what I'd find if I typed "love forum" in the Google search bar.

Anyway welcome ~

[Asip4u]

I'm not gonna lie to you...If you know that a woman has an interest in you just as a friend, it's better for you to get out and fast. The only way anything can happen (in the long run) is if you keep yourself busy with other girls while staying friends with her...This will give you more confidence and she might see you differently afterwards.

[Jambo]

I'm not gonna lie to you...If you know that a woman has an interest in you just as a friend, it's better for you to get out and fast. The only way anything can happen (in the long run) is if you keep yourself busy with other girls while staying friends with her...This will give you more confidence and she might see you differently afterwards.

Well, I think I'm pretty much past the point of no return, otherwise I would've been out already. I guess what I really need is a reason for me to hate her or a reason for her to hate me. Something to cause her to sever all contact with me.

You know, I thought about trying to find someone else, not for the reason of moving on. If I get involved with someone else, possibly someone she knows, she might take more interest in me after seeing that I'm not desperate or needy. She might even grow jealous from the lack of attention because right now, she gets a fair amount of attention me - not that I call or e-mail her constantly. Let's just say that I give her enough attention right now that if I started ignoring her, she'd know something was wrong right away.

I'm thinking what might do it is to ask her for dating advice because she knows I don't know how to hit on women. If I find someone else that I'm even remotely interested in, maybe tell her that there's this girl that I want to ask out, but don't know how to approach her. Something like that maybe, but I could just be full of sh*t.

[Cybog]

You will mostly likely get a better response if you post this in the dating forum.

Good luck, and all that

[Jambo]

how would I move this thread to the dating forum?

[Tone]

A little somethin I like to call "Copy and Paste"

[whaywardj]

Jambo: First of all, don't be an ass and try to find or create reasons for you to "hate" each other. That's sheer lunacy.

Second, try to remember that "love" isn't anything you can pick up, look at, examine with one or another measuring stick and say it's either this or that. It's an emotional state-of-being like any other...sadness, anger, fear, whatever. That you have it isn't unique, or even interesting. How you handle having it is.

Show this woman (and yourself) how well (or poorly) you handle the situation. The rest will naturally follow from that.

[Jambo]

well, I'll be honest with you I'm handling this a lot better than last time when I first fell in love...with, not my best friend, my first friend. That friendship pretty much ended that day that I fell in love with her. I couldn't control my emotions, I forgot how to act around her, I felt anxious and afraid when I was around her. Yeah, I'd have to say that I'm handling this much better.

And finding a reason to hate her is a last resort. It's plan B, if I can't take this relationship anymore and need a way to get out of it.

[Illusional]

well with a name like jamin'.. how would you expect to have women trouble??

raverboy