Hello everyone
I've used this site a few years back for some advice and I find myself here again. I must suck at relationships right?! Ha!
Long story short ....
Got hurt, stayed single for 2 years.
Found a new girl who I clicked with straight away.
Got that excited amazing feeling you get when you meet someone special.
We went on a first date
Started seeing each other on our 2nd date (we was drunk and I was xmas ever)
4 or so months later I found out on a night out she had kissed a lad all night behind my back when drunk.
I did intend to split with her but I didn't. It's so hard when your in that situation when it's a girl you love.
Later she moved into my house as she was always there anyway.
Come October time (10 months into the relationship) she found out she was pregnant and we kept it.
During her pregnancy we split twice due to stupid crap
After the pregnancy we was on/off again due to stupid crap.
We last gave it a go early this year and it was fab! She moved back in.
Whilst she was moved back in we fell out over stupid crap.
She moved out.
We stayed split up.
This was about 4 months ago.
So here I am, heartbroken. Not just because I've lost a girl I love but because I've lost my family. The thing that gets me though was I was always the one chasing her trying to fix it, never her. She always gave up so so easily. It's like we're worlds apart, I wanted to be together and to be a family so much but to her it didn't matter at all to her. I even proposed to her to at least give me the satisfaction knowing I did all I could do.
If you asked me why the relationship failed, I'd say I wasn't perfect but I'd say it's because she isn't laid back at all. Because she isn't laid back the smallest thing is an issue and when someone is being so unreasonable most people become naturally defensive. So because I'm not a doormat , she would be unreasonably petty, I'd defend myself and we would argue. As an example, when I say she moved back in mine with the baby, it was only because she had a huge argument with her mum because her mum had used a full bottle of fabric softener that the ex had bought. Very unreasonable. Just think of all the stuff she uses of her mums and she kicks off over that. Then she moved back in mine, had 3 petty arguments with me then moved back her mums. A month later she had another petty argument with her mum and now lives at her sisters house.
Anyway here I am. I'm ok most of the time but then I have dark days and I just cry. I may go and seek counselling to try and help me. At least I can say I did all I could do. At least I can say I did experience life as a family all together in our home even if it was only a month.
I'd go no contact but I can't because of our daughter I'm sure I'll feel better in time anyways.
If anyone can offer advice who has come out of a relationship when it's not what they wanted and they have a child or children please speak up.
I bid you farewell and thank you for reading my short story.