K here goes. So for the last while, it just doesn't matter what I do. Slow, fast, hard soft, my GF just does not get off. She keeps saying it's no big deal. I just can't wrap my head around how that can't be a big deal. We've been together over 10 years, she says that cuddles and kissing and spending time together is more important than sex. Now I can appreciate that, but doesn't everybody male and female have needs that must be met? She says I put too much pressure on myself and that I'm too focused on getting her off that I don't enjoy sex but I have never been able to enjoy sex if the woman I'm with isn't fully enjoying herself. She keeps saying that getting off isn't important to her, and even if that should be true, it's important to me. I hate to compare sex to a job, but when I do something, anything, I pride myself on doing it right, and thoroughly. And one-way sex where I cum and she doesn't, makes me feel worthless no matter what she says. So, ladies, if your man wasn't getting you off, ever, would you get it somewhere else or would it actually not be a big deal? I'm at the point where I just can't be bothered to have sex with her and the absolute last thing I want is to have sex with another woman either given the circumstances.
So is getting off a big deal or not?