Originally Posted by
that EmmaGirl
Yes! ^This.
Thank you!
Some people sure get in an interesting holier-than-thou mode here.
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To the person who somehow didn't get the hint about their wrong use of "narcissism", here goes:
"Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water." (This is from wikipedia, which I must admit, I would not accept from my students, but it's useful for a first )
I have to disappoint you, I do not admire my own attributes. I think you might have meant "egotistical". Which I'm also NOT.
Confused, sad, and hurting, maybe, but not egotistical.
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ok, hi, I'm not justifying anything. I already feel like s***, I don't need to be called more names by you. I'm making a *general* point about relationships NOT being easy.
I'm not sure how it is in your line of work, but I'm an associate professor at a University, it's not always easy to avoid one-on-one time with people, often brilliant colleagues one might look up to. Friendships tend to form between people and the line to "more" is not always easy to see.
It's funny how you're telling me I'm not able to read properly and understand that article you linked, when most of us grew up reading hundreds of books on how complicated relationships are. Sorry, it is not always easy and relationships are not always black and white, when you're friends with someone you have a crush on, you're normally not assuming that they might develop feelings for you.
My ex-boyfriend did have frequent one-on-one meetings with younger females. Frequently, in fact, since he's an English professor. I know that some of them might have had crushes on him. How would I feel if he had feelings for them? I wouldn't like it, of course. What a question!
I'm sure he thought that some of them are very good-looking, it's normal, you know. And I knew he was flirty when I met him and that he was flirty with other women (not students, obviously) even after we became an item, but flirty doesn't mean unfaithful in my world.
Had I known about any feelings, I probably would have felt bad. But I admit there were instances in our four-year relationship when I thought about other men as interesting, but these feelings passed quickly.
It happens.
Maybe not in the world of someone who lives according to articles filled with tired, uninteresting stereotypes so old, I expect them to proudly show me pictures of their grandkids who go to Harvard.