Is he just not interested?

[Gaynor88]

I met a guy who I really like a couple of months ago. We really seemed to hit it off and he seemed to like me, wanted to chat every day and seemed keen to see me. We only went on 4 dates, as he has a busy job and our schedules don't match well. But I thought we could make it work if we liked each other enough. Suddenly he was offered a job at the other end of the country, and soon after he slowed contact eventually stopping. I was pretty hurt as he didn't give me any explanation,just went cold.
I let it go, and four weeks later, I got a message from him, saying that he owed me an explanation, he thought he'd be moving away and it made sense to him to ignore me instead of stringing me along and that he was sorry. I later found a mutual friend had a few words with him that prompted this.
I replied that I'd found it confusing, and he could have told me what he was thinking cos I'd have understood, instead of feeling is done something wrong. He didn't respond but when I asked him if he was still moving, he said no but now he may be moving even further away, overseas. The conversation carried on a little and tailed off, I didn't know if I should seem too keen to talk after what's been said ( or not) .
Do you think I said the right thing and handled it ok, or should I have tried to talk to him more? The thing is I really like him and don't want to lose touch. But it seems he's telling me he's not interested? Even though he got back in touch? I just feel a little confused :/

[Wakeup]

The thing is I really like him and don't want to lose touch.

And what pray tell is the sense in that? He's moving overseas and he is rude and inconsiderate to just have ghosted you instead of said a proper goodbye to you.

You shouldn't want someone who treats you like that in your life no matter how much you thought you "liked" them.

Try to look at this realistically and take off the rose coloured glasses: It seems the only reason he got in touch is because your friend made him feel like shit so he wanted to not look like the asshole that he actually is. Silently thank your higher power that he showed you what a weak character he is.

[TheEvilJester]

Agreed with Wakeup. Instead of being a mature adult and being honest with you, he chose to just try to drop off the planet like a frigging high school student. I presume this is an adult we are talking about, but he sure doesn't act like it. Not only that, but it took somebody else giving him a swift kick in the soft parts for him to man the Hell up and just be honest with you? Believe me, I understand how you feel, but you deserve better than that. You need a man, not a scaredy little boy.

Here's the thing, if he is moving really far away, it very well may have been the right thing for you two to end things..... but you at least deserved to be part of that discussion and part of that decision. But, Hell, if he just felt it best to move on and that it that, then fine. That is his right if he doesn't want a long distance relationship..... but he could at least be man enough to tell you that.

Again, I understand why part of you still wants to keep in touch, but I honestly think you'd be better off just to wish him well and then forget him completely. You deserve better. I hope you find that better very soon. Good luck to you.