Please help!
I know a married woman friend who I knew either side of her marriage two years ago. We used to work together.
She's great, we proverbially 'get on'.
Since the wedding, she's more or less binned me... no social media communication except for what I'm going to say next.
Here's where it gets weird - she has been, for the past 20 months or so, texting me every 6-8 weeks about a job she has... a vacancy that she thinks would be good for me.
Now... some of these jobs are anecdotal... in the fact that they don't really exist but for her knowing a friend of a friend who 'might' have a vacancy in their department etc. She also tried to get me a job at her place of work a few months ago too.
However, this current role/job she's found (in her home town) has turned out to be legit! Its not advertised, not in the papers nor company website. She's also applying for a similar role in the same company too.. She's done some serious spadework for me here and I'm grateful but curious!
Is she REALLY BEING GENUINE?
We honestly don't meet (2x in 2 years), socialise, fb, phone but she does this for me every so often but regularly. She has been known to txt me about a job late at night... something that could easily be left for the morning I think.
Some have said I shouldn't get my knickers in a twist and that she's being purely innocent and looking out for me as a friend. That's great.... but then if its so innocent, why cant we chat/meet and talk more often? She's planning to work with me again for 8 hours a day yet doesn't want to communicate.
Friends meet, speak and interact. We used to... but not any more.
Folks tell me that after marriage... things do tend to drift apart as OP involved might not like their OH being involved with others. That's fine too.... but then why take chances like this?
She's been opening with this job gambit theme for ages now and I love it when we talk but curious as to where the conversation ends up. I've never told her I want a new job...
Someone shed some light here.