Hello.
Please give me your advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and I am 20 years old. We were best friends for 3 years before getting together. The last year has been brilliant - I figured I would marry him and we were soul mates. But recently I've been so worried.
Since about August my sexual libido has been waning. I'm not as up for it as I used to be. I have never received any pleasure from oral sex, and only very occasionally orgasm from intercourse. Most of the time I pretend I'm getting pleasure when I'm not. I figured this was fine so long as my boyfriend felt satisfied. But now my desire has vanished. I don't want to kiss him for fear he'll want sex. I'm not too keen on cuddling anymore.
How do I solve this problem and regain my libido? I enjoyed sex but now I feel it's a chore I'd happily avoid.
Also, does this mean I no longer love him? When I'm with him I just worry that I've fallen out of love, that I don't love him anymore. How would I know for sure? I know that after a year, relationships calm down and nothing is new and exciting anymore. But how do you know if it's the end?
Thank you and happy new year when it comes!
Emgib