I was dating a guy for 6 months, when without warning he just abruptly ended our relationship. I know this sounds cliche but I thought he was "the one." I was single over 2 years after escaping an abusive relationship and when we met it just felt right to get together. We had lots in common, we had tons of fun together, he was always making me laugh and he treated me very well. He made me very happy. He was everything I was looking for. I dated some jerks in the past, but I truly felt this relationship was going somewhere. We never had an argument, or even a disagreement . He would marvel at how I was so easy going and easy to get along with. Everything seemed perfect so I never saw this coming. He called me a week after New Years and told me he wanted to end things. I asked why and he said it was getting to be "too much" with work and we didn't see each other often. Mind you we saw each other about once a week and it was ME that took the 50 minute trip in my 16 year old car to go visit him. The other 6 days we'd text, and talk 3-4 times a week. I feel if you like someone enough you will do whatever it takes to make things work, so I think this is a cop out. I proposed ideas for how we could make this work and he fired off more excuses. He said it's gonna get worse at work cause they are short staffed and he's been working more so we might as well just call it quits and move on. Another excuse being that he felt there was no more "spark" in the relationship and he didn't have feelings like he did at the beginning and wouldn't explain further. I can tell you, you don't just lose a spark overnight; and he sure as hell had a spark when he had sex with me the last time we were together! He said he felt our relationship should have been "further along than it was but it wasn't." Whatever the hell that means. Finally he said that we didn't have anything in common anyway "except hockey and good sex." This is not true as we had tons in common. It's like he had his mind made up when he made the call and he absolutely refused to work it out or compromise and I had no say in it. I can't shake the thought that I said or did something wrong even though he insisted I didn't. If it was something I was doing he never brought it to my attention to allow me the chance to fix it. If I do something wrong: tell me! If things arent working: say something. To me this indicates that he did not care enough about me or our relationship to work on it. Someone who could just drop everything and walk away doesnt even want to try. I thought about the timeline from his ex to me, and perhaps he wasnt emotionally ready to move on, but I feel this was something he should have known BEFORE he got involved with me. Not 6 months later after Ive spent time, gas mileage, money and developed feelings for him. He told me he had been meaning to do it for a bit but wanted to wait till after the holidays to drop the bomb. Then he acted like 6 months was just no big deal and I shouldn't be upset, like the time we spent together didn't matter and I meant nothing to him. And I don't know, maybe I don't have a right to feel this way? Basically in a nutshell he said "well it was fun, nice knowing you, we tried and it didn't work, bye." He did say before hanging up that he may change his mind and gave the usual "we can be friends" crap everyone tells you when you get dumped. I've been around the block enough to know that means someone does not want to see or speak to you again, ever. It's easy for everyone to say "screw him, it's his loss." But I'm having a hard time with this. I cant figure out what went wrong or why I wasnt good enough for him. I feel so hurt, empty and confused. I think there's something he's not telling me and I don't really have closure. Word on the street is that he is not seeing anybody else, although I do feel he is hiding something from me. I know it's probably best to just leave him alone and give him space which I have. I have not bothered to contact him as hard as it is. However I do plan on emailing him at some point to break down his list of excuses. I feel deceived that he we spent the holidays together while he acted like everything was peachy, not to mention that he accepted his gift that took me a month to make. This is ultimately going to be a trust issue with someone in the future. It's not like we were constantly fighting and a demise was predictable. I think I would have rather seen this coming. I just can't wrap my head around how you could happily pose with someone by the Christmas tree and then just abruptly cut them out of your life and dispose of them like trash. This was traumatizing and I'm tortured by my own thoughts. I keep going back and forth from being hopelessly sad and wishing he'd call, to angry and wanting to tell him to go screw himself for how he treated me. I still have some of his things and he has some of mine, and I have to see him in the next coming months for hockey. I am afraid things might get ugly. I expect he'll ignore me or treat me with contempt for the mere fact that we used to be intimate and now were not. I don't know what to do or how to move forward.