Hi guys & gals,

I am in a bit of a sticky situation and I am really not sure what to think or feel about it.

To summarize, I was introduced to a girl in Turkey a while back by a friend (I am originally Turkish too but I live in Canada). We started chatting and it was all going well. Eventually, she asked me to come over to visit her and her family so I went there to see her.

Now, when we met for coffee once, she asked me "what do you think of us ? " I told her I liked the idea of "us" and that I was happy with what I saw. When I asked her the same, her reply was "so far so good". However, I couldn't help noticing that a few times she made a point of telling me how fond she was of where she grew up and how it was home for her. I am wondering if this is her way of telling me she doesn't want to leave home for me. To make matters worse, her brother has the opinion that Canada is some sort of haven for sex and drugs and that it is bereft of culture and that she will just be miserable if she comes here.

Now, when I got bac to Canada, she sent me another message saying she wants to visit Canada and see what it is like over here, but she still won't commit to or actually formally acknowledge we are in a relationship. I did try asking if the concept of coming to live in Canada bothers her, and she just dodged the question. I know things can go south when you force or pressure a girl so I have been giving her more space and I did not bring this up again.

BUT, my question is, are these all warning signs that she is losing interest ? Should I start thinking about moving on or is this all normal ? To any women out there, what is this girl thinking ? Does she have doubts about me or does she see a future with me ?