What should I do?

[cain9580]

My name is james and I am 24. I have been dating this girl for almost 7 months now. We really started to get attached just a few months back.

Now just 2 days ago she told me that she doesnt think it is going to last and that she didnt think I liked her that much. I cant see where this is coming from. Just that morning she was telling me how much she loved sleeping in my bed and that she was SO happy. I always try to let her know how much she means to me.

Here is the twist. About a month or so I realized how special she was to me and that I was in love with her head over heels. Now I never told her because she always acted strange when we joked about it.

She said she needed her space and that she was going to think about things and whether or not she wanted to be with me. It is breaking my heart to see her this way and to know that she may leave me. I didnt want to call and make myself bothersome; so I sent her an email she will get when she gets to work tommorrow telling her exactly how I feel.

I will just have to leave it at that and hope she comes around. Will this work or is she going to just think that I am trying to deceive her?

[whaywardj]

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[Asip4u]

She must be scared knowing that you feel too attached to her...Also, if you actually mentioned "i love you", it could be trouble. A friend of mine, she was dating a guy who told her he loved her after 2 months and she dumped him. It's a hard situation but I suggest that you try to make things more challenging in your relationship. If you're always nice and treat her like a princess she'll get bored and will tell you things like "I don't feel the same way anymore" and so on. Good Luck!

[cain9580]

Its not like all that. She always tells me how much she really likes me and she says she loves so many things about me. She tells me that she has never dated a guy like me. We made plans to travel this summer during her vacation time.

I am always the swwetest guy in the world. I have messed up a few times but nothing real big. We get on each others nerves sometimes but its no biggie. One time I messed up was when she asked if I wanted to come over to her mothers house with her (her mom is recovering from an auto accident) and I said no.

She just says she doesnt think it is going to last because she doesnt think I like her that much.

[Asip4u]

Now I never told her because she always acted strange when we joked about it.

Can you explain this further? How does she act strange?
All that stuff above about her telling you that she likes you and so on is nice but it doesn't really mean anything if she's not comfortable with how you express your self.

[cain9580]

Can you explain this further? How does she act strange?
All that stuff above about her telling you that she likes you and so on is nice but it doesn't really mean anything if she's not comfortable with how you express your self.

I would just joke around and say that she is falling in love with me. She usually replies with "No your not that cool" or something to that end.

I can see where she could say that she doesnt think I love her, but not like her. I usually draw the line on things to say/do at a moderate dating level. Like cuddling on the couch is fine but to an extent. I didnt want to make her feel uncomfortable by holding her all the time and always telling her how I felt at the moment about her. This is where I might have messed up because this is one of the main things she mentioned.

I didnt allow myself to be free with her because I didnt think she loved me or felt the same way I did. I was really drunk a month ago and told her I loved her and all she said was "We will talk about this when you are better." We never did.

[Asip4u]

You seem like you did a lot of things right dude...Taking some space from each other might do good so give her some time and don't keep your distance too much in case she wants to talk soon.

I sent you a Private Message so make sure you check that.

[Sami09]

Hello James well it almost seen that this girl feel the relationship is getting too serious so what does she do pull away. Have she been in a serious one before. If she have maybe she scared she going to get hurt. Good Luck James just be support and maybe she will come back to you

My name is james and I am 24. I have been dating this girl for almost 7 months now. We really started to get attached just a few months back.

Now just 2 days ago she told me that she doesnt think it is going to last and that she didnt think I liked her that much. I cant see where this is coming from. Just that morning she was telling me how much she loved sleeping in my bed and that she was SO happy. I always try to let her know how much she means to me.

Here is the twist. About a month or so I realized how special she was to me and that I was in love with her head over heels. Now I never told her because she always acted strange when we joked about it.

She said she needed her space and that she was going to think about things and whether or not she wanted to be with me. It is breaking my heart to see her this way and to know that she may leave me. I didnt want to call and make myself bothersome; so I sent her an email she will get when she gets to work tommorrow telling her exactly how I feel.

I will just have to leave it at that and hope she comes around. Will this work or is she going to just think that I am trying to deceive her?