Advice about a girl

[RelAdvice]

Hello

Thank you for accepting me here

I joined this forum since I need an advice with a girl

I met this girl since I started my new job a few months ago, we work in the same company but in totally different areas.
We both come from the same country and we now live permanently in UK

She works in the recruiting department, and since the very first day she seems very friendly with me.

Since I started I used to have meetings at work, with her almost every month, and we were always very close and we were helping each other a lot.
During these meetings most of the time we were talking about work topics, I have never tried to ask her to go out since I know she has boyfriend.
I share a house with others company employees (2 girls) and one of them told me, she has boyfriend.

Days ago we had a last meeting, she did email me because she wanted to talk to me about some topics work related.
She did not only talk about work, but also regarding her private life and my private life.

She told what I do in the house, and she told me my housemate gave her these information, she saw me I was very frustrated because of that.

Since I am trying to help the company and also the recruiting department, which is not my ordinary job, she also told me this sentence: We all hang on your lips, which means we are all listening to you.
We left the meeting quite amicably though, but when I went back home, thinking about the overall meeting, I did text her saying I was very unhappy with that.

As soon as she got my message she called me back, I did ask her why she was behaving in that way, in particular I told her: Did anyone say anything about me? Or Did I do anything to you? you didn’t like? But she did not answer, she did not even try to apologize, she did try to make things even worst by saying: talk me like a man. I did just tell her: -We talked now- and we finished the conversation.
I think the reason why she behaving in that way is because she likes me at least this what a colleague of mine told me.

Now I did just stop all sort of contact with her, I saw her once again in the company she did smile at me but I did not take any notice.
However weather or not she is interested in me, I just want she respect me as an employee for who I am.

I do not know how to deal with this situation: Should I be harsh and also be ready to live the company? Since she does not seem sorry at all for what she did.

I do not want to talk with her manager or my manager, I want to talk to her first, next time I will have the chance to do it, since sooner or later we will have to talk again since we work in the same company.

Any suggestion according this matter will be very appreciative

Thank you in advance for your support

[Ianidus]

Women and men flirt at work they don't know they're doing it half the time but when they do mean the flirting it will be a bit more obvious than you have described. She may be shy or unexperienced and has not quite got the flirting to a level of acceptable skill. Patience is the virtue here my friend just stay back and live your life and carry on with your job. good luck and don't think too much mate

[chickmagnet7]

Email her ask her to meet. talk about work for a while and then you can flirt with emotional words, such as why u like this work? do you like it much or u love it? what your favourite actor and ask why.