are both college students at a community college. We started dating 3 months ago and met through a mutual friend. When it started out, we were great and she treats me very well, however, this last month hasn't been very good. She has depression, and takes pills for it, however she has these terrible swings in her mood where she will be fine and then that same day will be very apathetic and somber. it didn't used to be this bad.

I have anxiety, so I'm constantly thinking that it's my fault even though that sounds ridiculous. Before me, she dated a girl who also had depression, and they were together almost a year but the relationship was very unhealthy. She told me that I'm the best girlfriend that she has ever had, because im so sweet and caring. But she also says that I'm too good for her. Like I said, this last month hasn't been good. She brings up often enough about how she wants us to stay friends if we were to break up and always brings up the topic. We have had long conversations about this before, I even told her that if she wants to break up with me, then to do it. If she ever wanted to I told her just to do it, not to wait. But still she hasn't broken up with me, we are still together. The other night we were on Skype and she told me not to fall for her too fast, she said falling for someone is scary and that she didn't want me to get hurt. Even then she didn't break up with me, she said she didn't want to. People tell me to be strong for her because of her depression, and I have been trying because I care for her deeply, but the more I do for her, the guiltier she feels that I am too good for her.

Recently, things have been going on in my life that are really hard. School, work, health etc. She has been having problems too. She started to have to take "me" days, which are basically days where she doesn't talk to anyone but instead tries to wind down from stress. But it is happening more often, she can't handle my stress and her stress, so she has to take me days. She does many things that are good for us to, she took care of me when I was ill and she tries to help me when she can, but im just so confused.

I don't know if it is her depression that makes her act and say these things, but it is coming up more frequently, and I don't know what to do. The more encouragement I offer, the worse it gets. She doesn't break up with me but she always brings up the future as if we aren't together and if I tell her she is wonderful, she always has me give her examples, she is never okay with just the saying, she always needs me to tell her how she is wonderful.

I don't know, Ive always been a full believer in sticking together with someone when things got rough, but she is making it hard for me because after all these conversations we have had about our relationship and after everything she has said, I come back to the conclusion that something is wrong.

It's gotten to the point to where I don't want to talk about certain things because I feel they are triggers for her depressive state. I don't like talking about my problems to her because I'm afraid it will be too negative for her and will make her want another "me" day. She is one of those people who thinks too much. She thinks and plans everything. So when she brings up our relationship and it ending, she always says its just because she likes to be prepared. we are different in the fact that when I'm upset, I like to talk about it and be around others, especially my girlfriend. But when she is upset, she likes to be alone and doesn't like to talk about it. I don't know, sometimes I feel like the more I try to talk to her or be around her, the more I push her away. I don't know what to do. We have talked about it too, she says everything is fine, but her actions just don't follow suit. She told me that the only way she would break up with me is if she thought we weren't good for each other anymore, but I feel like that day is coming faster and faster.