Friends with Benefits

[greygirl]

Hey girls,

I really wanted some girly advice on my siuation at the moment

About a month ago i came out of a 2 year controlling relationship and Now i’m here. After things ended with my boyfriend i started speaking a lot with the guy i lost my virginity too almost 2 and half years ago and one thing lead to another we slept together a couple of times up until now 2 and half years on from loosing my virginity . It’s very different to how it was before, i don’t want to be with him, yet i know i like him, ill always have feelings there for him. He claims he doesn’t have any for me but if he didn’t would he have messaged me 4 times when i was in a relationship; and why would he be back now.

The sex is amazing we just click, the lust between us is crazy and we really do get along really well. He makes me laugh still and we’re always flirting. I don’t know whether there could be something more. Im scared to ask him incase it stops what we have now and i’ll have no one again. He always tells me how much he cares about me, he even said to me the other day “im thinking about what it would be like being with you”. I didn’t ask more cause he’ll think I'm that crazy girl who was beyond clingy 2 years ago.

One minute he can’t get enough of me and the next he’ll act like I'm no one. I’ve been thinking about asking to go out together somewhere even as friends to see what it would be like. I know we’d be amazing together but he’s never had a relationship with a girl. I want to be the girl to change that, i know that I'm not just a random girl he’s slept with. Iv’e known him for over 6 years now and we have history together. He always says I'm more special cause he took my virginity. I’ll always have something for this guy i can’t seem to get him out of my head lately. I really don’t know what to do at the minute my mind is all over the place. I don't know what to do?

[Gladimeir15]

Sometimes what we want for the moment will not be given to us for everything has its own proper time and timing. In your case, it might be he is not the perfect guy for you. You deserve something better and nowadays virginity is no longer a big thing..Just wait and you will see