So, after twenty years, my ex emailed me the other day. She had a vastly different perception of what happened in our relationship when we were in our early 20s, but the gist is this: we were a serious couple and had talked about marriage. She suffered from manic depression and was prone to erratic behavior and violent outbursts. When I became ill with a serious infection and we were living in other cities, she took up with another man, whom she eventually married, after dragging me through all the gory and intimate details of her new relationship while I was ill. Then, after bringing her husband to my house the week after she was married, she told me she never wanted to speak to me again because I refused to communicate with her consistently after she married some other guy. Got it?
No doubt I hung on too long. But now she acts like nothing ever happened and that she just wants to reconnect to relive old times. Never mind that she's still married, has multiple kids, etc. I want her to get lost and stay lost. Should I tell her how I feel about her rotten conduct, or should I just not reply, figuring she'll get the hint?