I dont understsnd this :(

[AnotherSadGuy]

Hello!

I need a bit of the advice!

So, 3 days ago my gf went on a business trip, she was 3 days alone in a hotel. She said to me she will be very busy and that she wont have time to stay in contact as much as usual. And it was like that, we only spoke to each other at the end of the day for 10-15 mins. Than today when she got back said to me: oh, it was perfect, guys were great, especially Marco, the teamleader. He is very handsome guy, he waited for me every morning in front of the hotel to give me a ride, he opened the doors of the car for me, than every day after meetings we went for a lunch together, than he gave me a ride back to hotel. And it was like that for 3 days...and the last day before I went back home, he asked me can I help him with some additional sheets and I stayed and helped him for 2h, than we went for another short lunch and for a coffee. Marco this, Marco that...Oh, I felt like a queen...

She said she will come home at around 17:00, but she came home at around 22:00h because she stayed with him. Anyway, I said: when a man does that, that only means he is attracted to you or he simply wants to get laid - but he played a gentlemans card on you to trick you. And than she said: no, he is not, I dont belive that, he is not like that...do you really want to fight now? If yes, than it will be bad for us...And I said: ok, do whatever you want and think whatever you want.

I also do all that stuff for her - open doors, taking care of her, always there for her, taking her out for a dinner, etc.

So, I dont know what to think? Is she trying to make me jelaous or did she really cheated on me?

I also go often to business trips, but I never come home and say to her things like these, I dont want her to think that something happened.

Any comment is most welcome, thank you!

[Keepingon]

It doesn't matter whether or not she cheated on you, she is clearly not satisfied with the relationship either way.

I think trying to make someone jealous is a pretty immature way of addressing issues.
Ask her if there is are any issues in the relationship she would like to discuss, perhaps she will bring something up.

Failing that, do you really need to be involved with someone that plays on your emotions for attention? If you accept this behaviour you are just setting yourself up to be treated this way in future. Adults sit down and talk like adults.

[AnotherSadGuy]

I really dont understand why she wouldnt be happy with our relationship since I take care of her like a queen? I take her out, always buy little presents now and than as a token of appreciation, I dont cheat on her, I always listen to her and her problems, etc...To me, its a bit of enigma why would she make me jealous? Maybe I need to be more rough and cold? Dont know...I am totally lost.

[AnotherSadGuy]

And now she said to me she booked herself a 4 day wellness on a coast, shes going alone cause she needs a break from work. This wellness is in the same town where her ex boyfriend lives and they used to go together there...My God! On end she said: we will also go one time there together but not this time... :/