I have been dating a girl for a couple of months now, and the other day she just got back from holiday. I hadn't seen her for a few weeks at this point (not a bad thing) and she messaged me as soon as she got back saying she wanted to hang out. This is obviously nice for me as it shows she is still interested. As we messaged she also asked me if I see anything happening with us at some point, to which I replied yes I do at some point not far away. (she agreed) She proceeded to tell me that she was 'actually kind of hoping we can be official soon '. I was a bit taken back and surprised by this, but just told her we can discuss everything on the day we'd decided to hang out. I didn't want to talk about important things like that over the internet.
The day comes around and it's the first time we'd seen each other in person for a few weeks. She picked me up as agreed and bought me a coffee. But she just doesn't seem as interested in person as she does when we message. I'm kind of wondering why she is so keen to hang out if it's almost as though she doesn't really want to be there, I mean she didn't have to follow through with hanging out. We didn't discuss being 'official', I didn't want to bring it up when she's being a bit off, and she didn't bring it up either.
The mixed signals, actions not matching the words really frustrate me. Maybe I should just ask her? That would seem the obvious thing to do...
I'm not sure whether I should ask her to hang out again next or wait for her to ask. Honestly she just hasn't been that much fun to hang out with recently at all, but I still want to see where it goes. What would you do in my situation?
Thanks for reading.