Hello, i'm new here, i've been trying to find a place to post, so i can get it off my chest, and find some sense and came across this one, please read the following, IS a long read but is interesting or in the very least amusing, i hope. Thank you in advance
there's this guy at work that I’ve known (well, knew he was around, and occasionally said hi, he works in the same department as my brother),
Anyway, since last year we have to deal with them on a daily basis, to help them with whatever they need, he was usually very um..well, rude and serious, me and my co-worker and friends, started to get fed up with his attitude, so one time she called him out on it, and from then on, he started to change a bit, he became nicer and asked for things with a “please, and thank you”, sometime later, when he kind of allowed us to, we started to joke with him like “you say hello, good morning, before asking for stuff” he’d laugh and all normal, then joking more more in a light way, just to make conversation and such, he opened up a bit more, I noticed that specially to my friend, but clearly not in “I’m interested in her” kind of way, but rather friendly like he is with all the girls of the company, but with me he was quiet, like he jokes around with all the girls, is quite social, and such but with me….as soon as I’d walk in the room, he’d be quiet, or just be there.
One time I had to go to his and my brother’s department, and I said hello to everyone, and he said hello in a way to respond to my jokes I’d made with him, but brother thought he was trying to get smart with me, and said a loud “Hey!” as a warning, and I was super embarrassed, all I managed to say was, “hey, relax!” and that was it.
During the annual party my company had, once he had the chance he went and sat next to me, and talked to me, he was trying to get to know me, everything was fine (one time my friend and I were talking about him, and she told me, he had told her why he was rude before, turns out he was bitter with life because of a horrible relationship he had ended).
As time went on, I started to get the vibe he liked me, and frankly, I started to feel attracted towards him too, my 2 friends at work started pushing the idea of him and me, I said no because I didn’t want them to make a fuss or make it obvious, (although it became obvious to them I liked him too) but when the opportunity arose to be alone with him, I flirted, he sometimes would look at me discretely when he thought I wasn’t looking, sometimes he’d forget, I assume, he was looking at me, and just stare and stare, then stop, sometimes he would joke around with me, with or without my brother present, he’d also have kind attentions with me, like one time I couldn’t find my brother and he helped me find him, even though he was just about to leave, or wait for me at the supermarket when I went to buy snacks, and other stuff, he started to want to say hello to me with a kiss on the cheek, or try and hug me, or simply touching my back, sometimes he did it with confidence, other seemed like he was afraid, even though I was always receptive, like I never gave him any negatives signs when he did it, to make him wanna stop.
Then got odd, he started saying hello but without trying to get such proximity, so much so that he made me feel like he was afraid of me or something, he’d just kind of waved; one time I called him out on it and he didn’t know what to respond, it started to feel like he was going back and forth with me, like he couldn’t make up his mind, anyway I kept on being the same with him though, and every now and then he would “show” his interest, but he had changed. One time I got wind from another coworker that he now had a gf, this came about in a casual convo, I wasn’t even trying to find out anything about him, but knowing how they joke around with each other, to me it was all rumors until I heard it from him, he’d keep on being nice to me, very attentive when the occasion arose, and basically confusing me to no end.
Another time, my friend, he and I went out to eat, while in the car I was talking about wanting to go somewhere, and he said he had gone there, my friend asked with whom and said “my girl”, I got the message, it was directed towards me, I say this because I got the impression that he knows or at least feels I liked him, but he was normal in the car, we were all joking, he was driving pretty crappy, that I told him jokingly “why are you driving so badly, we make you nervous or something?” he said “actually, yeah”, and my friend said “you mean her, I’m in the back not doing anything” and he just laughed, we went to eat and all normal, during that week though, I felt that, that barrier he had between us he was putting it down.
The following day, he came over to ask for something about work, and I was doing my business, when I looked up at him, I looked at his eyes and I was genuinely surprised, his eyes did not lie, I know he likes me, they were shinny and stuff, you know that look, but I acted normal, HOWEVER, as soon as my friend arrived she simply said “turn the page on him”, I was like why?, turns out when we went out to eat, and I got up and went to the restroom, she asked him “so hey, what about her?, aren’t you interested In her?” , he said something like “truth is that I really like her, I really like her, but I have a gf” (according to my friend, the tone of the “really like” was like as in friends / person), and my friend said “oh, wait, don’t get it wrong ..She didn’t ask me to tell you or anything, she doesn’t even know I’m asking you this”, he said “well, that’s why I agreed to come to eat as a bunch, to avoid you know…” (what bunch?, it was just us three, and besides, I had asked him to come to eat with us before, but had some stuff to do, as soon as he was able he accepted), “but anyway, I’m sorry but I’m busy right now, let’s change the subject” and then he asked my friend about her husband and kids (like what?, he knows squat about them, he just said the first thing that popped in his head)
For the following days, I acted normal with him, and even went about the way he does with me cold and hot, i would not even look at him, next I’d ask him if he’d go with me to the grocery store and wholeheartedly accepted, etc, he started to be super weird with me, so much that it bothered me, like annoying me, making me mad at him, and even feeling like I wanted to curse him out, even became less attractive and I just want to annoy him purposely now, I try avoid looking at him now, because he is super distant with me, is very clear how he treats everyone else and how he is when it comes to me, like just yesterday, I went to my brother’s spot (this guy seats right beside him) to show him something important on the cellphone, he kind of peeked and went on to his business, then when I was about to leave I almost bumped into him, but he pulled back almost as if I was gonna infect him with something, so much so that I told him that “geez, I’m not gonna infect you with anything, you don’t have to be like that”, he simply mumbled something like “no no, not at all”
he avoids looking at me, or is avoiding me altogether, I don’t know, today I bumped into him, face to face, he moved aside and mumbled something that sounded like “hello”, and I moved aside as well, and just said a dry “hi” and went on to my business….
So, thank you for reading this, for lending me a tad of your time, please share with me your thoughts, I’d like to understand what is going on, or what happened, I won’t pursue him, but I don’t want him to treat me like I have a terrible disease, he’s gonna catch if he’s even civil to me, I mean I know, he’s always single me out, he has always treat me differently, but he’s being mean and kinda hurtful to me, right now…I’ve done nothing wrong, frankly, ok I like him, I find him cute but is not like he’s the center of my universe, or that every choice I make I based on him, so wtf?!
I don’t want the atmosphere between us to be this awkward, I mean Is not like I’m in love with him or anything even close, to be honest, I think he’s blowing it out of proportion, and perhaps I’m being dragged cause he has managed to piss me off