Romance/being romantic is entirely subjective. I don't consider myself to be the "romantic type" either, but I do not disregard the idea of romance altogether. I don't think anyone will be able to change your mind about romance, however, what someone else might find "romantic", may not be romantic to you at all, and vice versa.
For example: some women (and men) love to be surprised with flowers, or a love poem/letter written by their lover; or taken out for a fancy dinner/evening out with their SO. They consider that to be romantic because, to them, their partner is going to some lengths to create a nice feeling of love and appreciation for their partner and his/her wants/needs. A different couple may consider it to be romantic to stay home and cook a nice meal together, and/or watch a movie together. Quality time spent together is what some people may find more romantic than "typical" romantic gestures, whereas other people love it when they are surprised with a thoughtful gift, or loving comment. Again, I will reiterate that my point is that romance, and what it means to be romantic, is widely varied between individuals. For me, personally, I find it romantic when I discover things I have in common with my partner, or when he holds my hand under the table if we're out with friends, or driving somewhere...
Romance can be different for everybody, but because of media such as movies/music/poetry/novels/etc. there has become a sort of "standardized" form of romance, because it's easy to identify. It may not mean the same for everyone though, and clearly the types of romance you see in music/movies don't speak to you the same way they do for others. That's OK. There's nothing wrong with that at all.
If you're curious, you should take a free online quiz to find out what your love language is. Everyone has a love language (and generally, they have a combination of all five of the love languages). What a love language means, is that, depending on the results of your quiz, when your SO displays the behaviors that speak to your "love language", it endears you to them. It doesn't mean any particular language, or combination of the five, is romantic, but it may help you discover more about yourself and what speaks to you when you are dating or in love with someone. I, myself, am not particularly emotional or "romantic" per se, but when I am with someone who speaks my love language, it makes me feel happier, more secure, and validated in the relationship based on the fact that they display behaviors that I find endearing and lovable.
Last edited by melancholia; 21-06-16 at 10:30 AM.
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