Should I talk with her about sex

[Biagio139]

Ok so ive been dsting a wonderful woman for 6 months .. First two weeks were nuts .. I actually thought she was a nymphomaniac .. Seriously .. But now things have slowed down a bit too much . We still have sex often but she doesent give back like she did .. Basicslly i massage her for a while perform on her then we have intercourse ... Every night i pray i may get some of that back ... But it only happens on sat when we are drinking .. Id love to be attacked and feel a little more desirable like she did in the beginning .. I have to note she did start taking prozac right about the time her labido died down.. Not sure how to approach this

[melancholia]

Yes, you absolutely should communicate your feelings and needs in a relationship, and that means talking about sex, too. What is stopping you from bringing it up with her? Try doing it at a neutral time when you are both relaxed, and use calm language. Use "I feel" statements and language that does not come across as judgmental or accusatory. Try saying something along the lines of, "I've noticed that our sex life has declined a bit. I feel closer to you when we have sex and I enjoy being with you, and I'd like for us to get back to a place where we are excited to have sex. What are your thoughts on that?" and then really listen to what she has to say. The medication absolutely could be a huge factor, as low sex drive is a common side effect of many medications. But the only way for you to get past this is to talk to her about it. Once you open the gates to the discussion, it becomes a lot easier to talk about it.

[Biagio139]

I brought it up once before that i like to play more than just jump into intercouse .. That i like to take my time and she just gets insatiable as soon as we start and wants to screw ..pardon the expression .. Imediately .. She got really upset and cried saying she thought everything was perfect so I had to consoul her for hours saying everything is perfect ... Ive worked in mental health for years so I know about the side effects etc and am pretty tactful .. Its just I soend alot of time making her feel good thrn we jump right in .. Im not sure if im just being whiney or i have a legit reason to be annoyed.. Saturdays we usually have a few drinks and she gets a little better but really haveing sex drunk isnt all that satisfying to me ..

[melancholia]

Drunk sex can be fun, but just like anything else, it gets stale after a while. It sounds like she has other emotional issues going on right now, and she may be too fragile to have a mature, adult conversation about this. Which is unfortunate to say the least. Have you tried talking to her about it since then? Maybe try a gentler approach? It doesn't sound like you've come at her in a judgmental or hurtful way, but clearly she is sensitive about this subject. Sex is obviously an important aspect of a relationship, and clearly you are not happy with the way things are right now. I would suggest trying to talk about it again, or suggesting that you slow things down a bit next time you do have sex and she tries to rush through foreplay... other than that, I don't really know what else to suggest. Maybe you two are not as compatible, sexually, as you thought you were.