She only wants to be with you when it's convenient for her, other than that, it seems pretty easy for her to cast you aside and do her own thing when it pleases her as well. I understand that you love her and that is really hard to let go of. What is making it harder for you is all this back and forth bullshit. Aren't you tired of this game yet? It seems as though you're the only one actually saying how you feel and what you want, and when you try to talk to her about it, she shuts down. That's not fair to you at all. It sounds like she wants to be single and keep you around at the same time, and you know what? She shouldn't get to have it both ways. She does not have the capacity to give you what you need from a relationship. You deserve so much better than this. You deserve to be happy with someone who can be happy with you, who loves you and respects you and what you have together.
The only way you can really break the cycle is by cutting off contact with her. It's not going to be easy, not at all; but in order for you to move on, it sounds like that's your only option at this point. I'd even go so far as to block her on social media, at least for now, until you sort yourself out and pick yourself back up again. Running into each other in public or on social media only makes the heartache last longer. A clean break will allow you to have some distance between you two, and the further away you are from the source of the problem, the clearer your perspective will become as you move forward. Eventually you will see all the major problems you had and why it didn't work out, and everything will make a lot more sense. Right now your judgment is clouded by the emotions your feeling, which is both understandable and normal. You're human, who has feelings, and you need to make your feelings and needs a priority.
Last edited by melancholia; 30-06-16 at 07:56 AM.
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