Does he still love her?

[lost_me]

It's a long story, please bear with me.
I am 22 years old and have been dating a guy for the past 10 months. Our relationship started with physical attraction, and then developed into strong feelings for each other. However, I was always doubtful of him as a long term partner, since I found it very hard to share things with him; where I am the kind who can share anything easily with almost anyone. Moreover, I believe that we are very different in the way we are - i am more social, he is pretty anti-social and doesn't easily mix up with new people, i am more rowdy, he is more focused on manners and proper conduct, being from military background, etc. Before we started dating he had strong protective feelings, which eventually turned into those of love and attraction for another girl. He had stopped talking much with her when we had started.However, 2-3 months back, I encouraged him to start talking to her since they were good friends, and he missed her company and the conversations he had with her. At the time, I guess I secretly wanted him to be with her(the feeling to play the good Samaritan was very strong I guess). Upon my insistence, he started spending one of the 2 weekends with her. It made me uncomfortable, but I hid this from him and rather pushed him more. Then one night he tells me that he hugged her and lay for hours the weekend before when he visited her place. This shook me up(I know stupid, since I was the one that pushed him away). I said it's ok, I understand they both like each other. Then this just kept growing. And finally 2 weeks later he comes to me with a sad face and says that he ended it with her after making out with her. I don't know why but I got rather angry, and called him a fool, and asked him to go back to her since he loved her so much.*
I was in so much pain as soon as he left, I hadn't anticipated it. I was always the kind of person who could move on easily from people. I guess this was my first romantic relationship, and hence I didn't know how it feels when someone you love leaves. I was a wreck. When I couldn't take it anymore, I pinged him saying that it was all too sudden and I we need to slowly end our relationship. Turns out he was also not able to move on from me. Anyways we got back together, and in the process the other girl got hurt. I later learned that since I had never been open with him, he was of the opinion that I hadn't loved him as much as he did, and that I would have left him eventually, and that's why he had left upon my insistence earlier.*
Now the problem is, in the initial few days after our patch-up he had been racked by guilt of hurting such a good and dear friend. I was utterly jealous at his pain, but slowly I controlled myself, thinking that its normal. But now after 3 months, he tells me that he still thinks of her daily. He pinged her a few times, but almost all the times she told him to not do so as she needs to move on. Her friends called him and said not to contact her as she becomes distraught whenever he contacts her. He wonders when she will forgive him for coming to her and leaving her within a day. This disturbs me greatly. Is he still in love with her? Is it right of him to think of her so much?*

P.S I've tried to explain everything the best I could. If something is still not clear, please do let me know.

[breathe123]

He still cares for her in ways that I don't think ~ "just " a friend should or would ~ why would you push him back to her & then feel upset when he does what you wanted. I don't think you both are right for each other, too many games and conflicted lingering feelings. Might be time to move on.

[melancholia]

Quit playing games and end the relationship. Neither of you really want to be together, so it's best to just cut your losses and move on.