Me and my possible soul mate have been seeing each other for 8 years with 2 years of not dating we recently had a huge falling out which resulted in her leaving me for another guy which I now know. She broke things off with the usual "it's not you its me" bs and "we need space" lines but continuing on... That was a month and almost 2 weeks ago. She called me a couple days ago which led to her coming over, reason being that she wanted to talk in person. I have been hearing rumors of her dating the guy she broke up with me for and that they're ENGAGED, but what's a rumor without proof right? So she gets here and behold a engagement ring on her finger! She told me everything and why she did what she did and the famous line "I'm confused". She cried so damn much and apologized a lot, which I could see was hard for her to do. We talked, we fussed, we physically jacked each other up... And we made love which is why I am now lost. I love this woman, I do but I don't want to be so damn vulnerable to her. She's the only one who ever brung out my emotional or romantic characteristics and I love her more for that. Back to the story she told me before she left that she needs to be back with me I do want her back but only to do right by our love I'm tired of giving her chances after chances after chances again only to be back starting over every single time. She's in a whole new relationship and even engaged so that tells me she wanted some new experience, now that she's had it she wants to return home not realizing that it's no easy direction to proceed to. I value her as a queen and I showed her nothing but endless gestures of love while together I gave her aggression and unconditional love. She's a beautiful person inside and out but why do I think more highly of herself than herself? Shouldn't she want a man like me? Moving on.. She's don't have that much family and after her mom and grandad passed away she haven't been the same it was 6 years and 4 years ago I believe, I just want her to be happy even if she never called or came over I'd still want her happy. I know I can leave her alone but I also know I'll never stop thinking of her either which is why I need advice I told her I think she needs to be alone to let herself heal. I feel that she's been in rebound relationships every since we broke from a 5 year relationship which started in 2008, she's been in relationships constantly which I feel stopped her from healing and learning every damn time. We don't have to be on the same level but alongs we're growing together is all that matters I'm 23 and she's 22 years old. Any advice?