he wants sex and i want to sleep

[Junket]

ok. I missed that. I have ADD. ::starts chasing a balloon::

Haha, you and the rest of the world.

[NeoSeminole]

Here's an idea: why not let him sleep with other girls? That way he stops bugging you for sex and you can have your rest if it's that important to you. Problem solved.

[maxxdarling]

Here's an idea: why not let him sleep with other girls? That way he stops bugging you for sex and you can have your rest if it's that important to you. Problem solved.

I would have to agree with this - altough it sounds harsh or is an implied joke or whatever - it has a sense of truth in it - OP, you are obviously not connecting on an intimate level with him if he gets angry with you over not having sex - i have this same problem - except i am in the position of your BF - let me tell you, its not fun - you think that its just all about you - but think of what he's going through, basically the woman he loves or is in love with is not interested in him anymore and is rejecting him. thats how i feel - i dont want to be in a relationship with someone who feels either obligated or forced into sex with me - there are other fish in the sea.

[whaywardj]

lancome: One, get clear with him that it's becoming a real problem between you. Be prepared for a lot of hand waving and attempts to lay blame. Agree with everything that's said until the venting is over and he's receptive to listening again. Two, compromise. Let him know you'd be willing to have sex more if he'd be willing to seduce you more (instead of just assuming sex is available to him at will simply because you're 'with him'). Three, do your research. Look up averages and age groups. Is what you're going through a common problem? Where in the spectrum of 'normal' sexual activity are you? Where in the spectrum is he? If you notice a spike from the 'norm', try to talk about it and whether anything should be done to get closer to the 'norm'. Four, try to understand whether his demands for sex are really NOT about sex, but about something else. Say, control or power, for example. If you determine they ARE, then, five, get professional help.

[misombra]

i think you hit on the nail on the head hayward. i think maybe this guy doesn't know how to make his woman want sex more. just thinks she should do it because they're together. i wanted to say that but it would have probably come out bad from me.

[whaywardj]

I doubt anything bad could ever fall from the flower of your mouth. You are a smile on the lips of life.

[misombra]

are you trying to seduce me?

[Kiechi]

Haha we got a brown-noser in isle 2!

[whaywardj]

Not bad, huh?