Self destructive behavior

[Loveisreal334]

I was engaged to this man. I loved him and believed that I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. Throughout the relationship, he had displayed some very controlling behavior and often humiliated me with normal bodily functions I could not control. I was his maid, and his servent, and I would always be happy to cater to his every need including in the bedroom. Over time he began to completely isolate me from my friends and family. He had convinced me that they were trying to stop us from being together. We had always talked about our life together and not a single day went by without us planning something about our lives. One day, completely out of the blue he broke up with me via text message telling me that he didn't want a relationship and was better off alone. I was devastated. I was very happy with this man despite everything. I took a couple days off work to get myself together. I asked him for my things back and I went over to his place and got my things. He aplogized but I'm not so sure he meant it. He could barely make eye contact with me and was acting as if he had no confidence. A day later, he told me he was hanging aroound his ex girlfriend. Who has a tendency to display self destructive behavior and really broke his heart While they were together. My heart sank. He then began drinking and doing drugs and piercing and tattooing himself. I deleted him off all my socials and my phone. But still had mutual friends, one of them mentioned him isolating himself and basically displaying arrogant behavior and basically telling everybody how great hes doing without me in his life and "Can finally go back to being a cold hearted jerk that he missed being" His mother contacted me telling me to get him out of my life because hes falling apart. I love this kid alot. I just don't understand why hes thriving under self desstruction.

[Swiftintent]

Sorry you are dealing with this. It's a hard thing to understand why someone you love does these things. I've been in a similar situation and I could never wrap my head around it. When my ex went through this destructive season in his life all I could do was pray for him. It was hard for me to stand back and watch this downward spiral his life was taking, but I had to come to the realization that I couldn't save him. He had to want to help himself. I hope you are able to find peace in this situation you are dealing with right now.