Insanely jealous when co-worker crush talks to other guys

[fenderguy]

So the story goes..


Well first off, for reference

Me - 23 - Single
Her - 23 - Boyfriend of 6 years
Other guy - 33 - Married, Kid

I've know this girl for 4 years. Always said Hi etc but over the last few months we have been messaging each other via skype in work. I have a core of 3 friends in work, we all hang out. Recently she has kind of joined the group somewhat. So over the last months we had been talking everyday, all day near enough. I like this girl, don't know if it's love or just a crush. She would start of messaging me every moring and it would carry on. But over the last week, she has stopped messaging me first, so i've been initating the conversation and they haven't been as in depth or long as they used to be. So i've been noticing that she's messaging a friend of mine like she used to message me, all day. I can see both of them from where i sit and out convo will dry up but i can see him and her exchanging messages all day. It's driving me nuts. I know it's perfectly innocnet between them, and it was innocent between us. But i'm getting really jealous and it's affecting my work. She also used to message me now and then on facebook, but never does anymore. If i message her, she'll answer but never with much enthusiasm, i can tell she's just trying to be nice.

If anyone has any advice, i would be very gratefull.

[Lovelife2017]

So the story goes..


Well first off, for reference

Me - 23 - Single
Her - 23 - Boyfriend of 6 years
Other guy - 33 - Married, Kid

I've know this girl for 4 years. Always said Hi etc but over the last few months we have been messaging each other via skype in work. I have a core of 3 friends in work, we all hang out. Recently she has kind of joined the group somewhat. So over the last months we had been talking everyday, all day near enough. I like this girl, don't know if it's love or just a crush. She would start of messaging me every moring and it would carry on. But over the last week, she has stopped messaging me first, so i've been initating the conversation and they haven't been as in depth or long as they used to be. So i've been noticing that she's messaging a friend of mine like she used to message me, all day. I can see both of them from where i sit and out convo will dry up but i can see him and her exchanging messages all day. It's driving me nuts. I know it's perfectly innocnet between them, and it was innocent between us. But i'm getting really jealous and it's affecting my work. She also used to message me now and then on facebook, but never does anymore. If i message her, she'll answer but never with much enthusiasm, i can tell she's just trying to be nice.

If anyone has any advice, i would be very gratefull.

Why would you go for someone that is taken? Would you want some dude flirting w/your gf? She is obviously not interested in either of you and is being very disrespectful to her bf.

[fenderguy]

I'm not "going for her". I have no intention of making a move, I wouldn't want to complicate her life like that. I'm sure it's only me that is having these feelings, not her.