So yeah hi! I need some advice and was hoping I might be able to find some guidance on here.
My fiancee and I have been together for 5 years. However we have not had sex for 4 years and have not kissed for the same length of time. Other than that everything is fine between us.
We have discussed this at length, each expressing each our feelings. Apparently we are both going to try harder, but she's just not going to no matter what I do. She does not want to see a couples therapist.
Now the kicker...
We are in our late 20's and have been looking after a young woman (now 18, for the last 2 years for reason that are quite complicated and long. She is not related to either of us.
We spend more time together than my fiancee and I do and get on extremely well. She is very sexually promiscuous (has had several partners lately) and I am incredibly, unbelievably attracted to her. She and my fiancee are also close.
I feel so close to her, but I'm terrified that she is going to reject me if I tell her how I feel. I am going to leave my fiancee, but right now our finances are awful as we are trying to pay off her debts. My credit cards are maxed out because of this.
I know the ideal answer is I should wait until I have left and some time has passed. Also I doubt she is looking for a relationship for some years, I don't even know if I want that now, I just want her.
Given that I am convinced that I need to say something to her, I was hoping I might be able to get some advice on how to approach this?