KatesDavid always gives terrible advice, so I would take his comments with a grain of salt.
It doesn't sound to me like your boyfriend is bisexual. It sounds more like he is into different types of sex than you are. In one sentence, you say you want to please him sexually, so you don't mind doing what he wants; but then in that same sentence you say it's a blow to your femininity to perform certain acts when having sex with your boyfriend. Either you are OK with what he wants or you're not. If you're not as open-minded as he is in bed, that's OK. You shouldn't try to force yourself to do things you don't want to do -- nobody feels good about that. However, you shouldn't be judging someone based on how they like to get off when they have sex. Everyone is different. Some men have a more difficult time getting off than others, and some need certain positions or moves to get there.
Often, people think men are easy to get off because we assume they jerk off all the time and "they're men, so it comes naturally" (seriously, no pun intended there); but everyone is different, and everyone has different levels of sensitivity. Just because he gets off in specific positions, doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy every aspect of sex, and it certainly doesn't mean he is not sexually attracted to you, or that he is sexually attracted to men. He may not like certain things, just like everybody else. A lot of men like ass play, it doesn't mean they are gay or bisexual by any means, it means they are open minded sexually and enjoy being pleasured. My BF likes ass play, and he doesn't get off from just oral sex. But I've dated lots of men who cum really easily from just a blowjob. It's all about different people and their willingness to try new things. Your boyfriend watching solo male porn to get new ideas of how to jerk off does not strike me as gay, it strikes me as curiosity. I watch a lot of double penetration porn. Does that mean I want two dicks in my p.ussy at the same time? No. But I am curious to watch it and think it's hot to watch on screen. Something a lot of people forget is that porn isn't real sex. I mean they are putting their body parts in other people's body parts, but it's all orchestrated and contrived. There's a camera crew and a director and the people in the film are actors. Each scene is decided before they start filming it, it's not a natural progression of how sex actually happens. Ladies in girl on girl porn are more often than not, straight women. Just because someone has a sexual experience with someone of the same gender does not mean they are gay. It means they are open to exploring sex with different people.
If you are not open to trying new things with your boyfriend, or if you think you are not sexually compatible, you need to talk to him about that, and possibly consider re-evaluating the relationship. Sex is really important in a relationship and it's not fair to stifle one's sexual needs because you don't like it, and it's not fair to ask someone to do something they do not want to do.
Last edited by melancholia; 10-02-17 at 11:36 PM.
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