How do i stop the desire to ****?

[LoveAddicted]

I don't know what to do, i date several girls, i don't really care about them, i just want to **** them, and i'm sick of myself, i'm tired of this dates only looking for sex, i don't want to use girls this way but i really want it until i finish having sex with her and that's when i realize i don't care about them not even a little... there should be more men out there with this problem for sure

what should i do? my problem is the very strong desire for sex, how do i stop it?

i have tried to not jerk off and not dating them, but the desire drives me crazy and even if i don't see them i start dirty texting because i'm horny, so my problem is not doing it but wanting it, i want to stop wanting it

[richiro]

i'm not an expert and dont' know if this is what it is - but there is an actual thing called "sexual addiction".. and it is a condition... and it does require help to get to the root of it and stop it.
you've done the hard part already - recognizing it and acknowledging it...

to get over this you will most likely have to go to counseling and get their help to figure out how to become un-addicted if that's possible (again, i'm not an expert in this area so i dont' know).

best bet is to see a counselor... especially ifyou're feeling extremely conflicted over it.

and it's NOT a bad thing to see a counselor so please start there ok?

hang in there.

[pcmaster]

Agree with richiro. counselor might be a right person to talk with.

But from my experience I cope with my sex drive when Im horny by taking a cold shower everday(3 times a day if needed to) and going for a walk - like 1-2 hours. You might find it hard to go into cold shower but its easy when you turn warm water first and then after while switch to completly cold, besides in summer watrer is not so cold. I massage my legs and back under cold shower - helps with feeling less tired too.
Anyway food kills sex drive too. 5-6 meals a day helps. Sure also exercise, like manual labour or gym. Besides to not to jerk off you need a lot of communication with people and try not to stay alone.

With girls. Its important to go for the right girls, the one who are loyal. It takes 4-5 dates till you bed them. Whenever you are about to have sex with a girl on first date say yourself - What are you doing? God is watching.

I bet you are young and you have healthy sex drive. As older people say - "have sex as much as you can while young or later you will regret it." I say its better to have sex with the same person cause you have all your miles on one airline. Long term relationships helps you grow. Besides you can have regular sex like everyday or 3 times a night, like when girl wakes up and you are already in her. - Thats the benefit or being in longterm relationship. Of course if your sex life is healthy.

[richiro]

no .. this goes beyond "young and hormonal"... i truly believe he is a sex addict which is a psychological condition (maybe physical too.. like a chemical imbalance).c
by no means am i saying you are a bad person. i truly believe that this is a very real thing, and that he is truly terrified by it and that this "thing" whatever it is takes him over.

please see a counselor ok? there is no shame in doing that to help get to the bottom of this and fix it.

good luck!

[pcmaster]

Short girls with big boobs have high sex drive. He could aswell date one and fake that he likes her and cares for her untill shes his gf and he really start to care. Really could make some girl happy.